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stormy's ex
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Date: March 31, 2011 01:11AM
We sat down tonight to think about the upcoming weekend with my parents. We both decided that it's best if we don't have a lot of sitting around time. Sitting around always leads to questions etc. that would be better asked and answered in a public not private setting. Read, it will be much harder for my Mom to cry loudly in a restaurant. At least we hope it will be.
They are coming in Friday afternoon. My Dad knows there is a rental car waiting for them. All he has to do is pick it up.
Here's what the plans are going to be.
-Arrive pick up their car and they then go to the hotel. I will be at work and stormy will also be at work.
-They'll come to stormy's house. A big leap into enemy terrority for my Mom. I'll be there already. We'll all be ready to go to dinner.
-Dinner will be a Fish Fry at stormy's church and the boys school. They serve fried perch or shrimp or a combo, three bean salad, pickled beets, cole slaw and fr fries or mac n cheese. Desert is pastries, make a donations and choose what you want. They can also have beer or wine. I'll be having the beer and stormy the wine. The boys pop with caffefine in it of course.
There will be no green jello or funeral potatoes served that night. Again it is in a public place. Mom has dragged both of us to enough Mormon events, I'm sure she'll be delighted to do this. After all it's for the boys school, a worthy cause.
By the time she takes in the banquet hall and the various statues of saints and the ever present crufix, she'll be worn out.
-Off to their hotel. I have a good book for her to read. The Power of Now. It is non religious. It discusses living now and how worrying robs you of tomorrow. That's one item we will be discussing.
-Saturday. I have PB that day. So we'll meet for breakfast at their hotel and then head with the boys to the museum. They can literally spend the entire day there. I figure she'll need to sit down eventually, so I'll take her and Dad to one of the cafes and we'll have our "religion" discussion.
Then I'll tell her that stormy and I are seriously considering remarrying after we live together for awhile. We've just started seeing each other again. So we'll see where it goes.
If I don't have to take to ER after all this, I think she'll be fine. By fine I mean so shell shocked she won't be able to talk.
My Mom is a good woman but she is a real TBM as is my sister. They worry constantly about eternal families. I intend to tell her to enjoy the one she's with right now. Now is important, the kids are growing up and need to know their grandparents. They don't have any others. Maybe just maybe, she'll get that message. One can hope.
She can ask all her questions concerning my current status, resigned and never intending to be a Mormon again. I will tell her exactly why I left. It will no good trying to convince her, she won't bend and she doesn't have to.
All she has to do is acknowledge that I no longer believe and won't ever believe what the Church says. I will ask her not to discuss the Mormon religion with me. It remains to be seen what she'll do with that one. Time will tell. She doesn't have to answer in complete sentences either, a nod will do the trick.
She will have her time and I'll answer her respectfully but with boundaries. After this time, I won't answer any more questions about why I left.
-stormy thought for sure she'd love to go to 5:30 pm Mass with her since both boys are altar boys for the service and if I want to I can tag along. So we put it on the agenda. Hard for Mom to refuse since again she dragged poor stormy to events. Like when my sister got married and of course stormy couldn't go to the temple and waited for it to be done outside. She hasn't forgotten that at all. In fact she was wishing one of our friends were getting married so they could tag along to that. Stormy definitely has a dark side at times, along with a very good memory.
-Saturday evening we'll go out to eat and if they want to they can come to Stormy's and read bedtime stories to the boys, though the boys might read to them.
-My Mother has expressed a desire -which is a polite word for insisting on going to a Church meeting Sunday. I said fine but it takes a long time and wouldn't you rather be with your grandsons? My Dad point blank told her forget church, I want to see the boys. Some one in the family is getting the idea.
-I go back to work Sunday at 4pm til 4am. I know I'll hear why can't you be a regular doctor with regular hours? It's like a broken record with her. I tell her each time, this is what I want to do. No office, hospital carries the liability insurance, I have good insurance. It's fast paced with different cases and I cover ICU which pays great.
-Stormy said she can handle them while I work. I don't doubt that one bit. Thought we both know she'll get grilled on the living together part. Stormy promised not to tell her we lived together before we were first married.
Yep, that's stormy you hear laughing. She hasn't quit the entire evening. I've been hearing remember when your Mom did this and that etc? I remember. Well stormy wants her to have a wonderful time. I highly doubt Mom will see it that way. But stormy will.
But Mom deserves exactly what she'll be getting. It's not so funny when you're on the receiving end of it.
-We'll give them a bare bones agenda by email and then give them the entire weekend agenda when they get here.
Now that it's done except for some revisions. No I won't be letting stormy do the revisions or she might throw in the Stations of the Cross since it's Lent, just to be ornery.
Any other good suggestions for the runaway train this weekend?
Bring them on.
Jake