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brainwashedmissionariesunite
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Date: May 07, 2015 08:19PM
Over a year ago, my girl and her missionary boyfriend broke it off. It was very hurtful to her, as the week before he was talking marriage. But that is neither here nor there. Today, she gets a letter in the mail from him.
It was so odd. Talking of how seven months ago he sprained his ankle bad and that humbled him to talk to his mission president and tell him all is not well. First, wth? So, you are not humbled by the horrible ways you treated people, but your ankle doesn't work and you are submissive? o.k.
Well, he said that he then told his Mission President what they had done, and assured him it crossed no lines, but it was enough to 'be a sin in God's eyes'.
She was so confused, as I. The one thing they didn't do was have a relationship that crossed the line in the sexual way. I don't want this to be a debate if sex is right or wrong, or how could I know, but seriously, nothing happened.
She was wracking her brain because he spoke of the Atonement. He started the letter, 'there is one more thing between us I have to tell you'. It made Zero sense, as he made it clear he was a missionary and a girlfriend would hold him back from being Holy.
why even write this letter? From a guy perspective (guys out there), why would you even write seven months after you last letter and drone on about his confessions to the mission president. He went on about how a weight was lifted off his shoulders, and if she has not taken care of it, that yo uwould be surprised at how good confession feels.
So, after thinking about it for a day, she finally remembered the one time three (THREE) years ago that she was rubbing his legs and he got, um, a little excited. He went in the bathroom and she assumes he let it out. Ha. So, she got him excited and rubbed his freaking leg and back for an hour. There was no touching of his p enis, his butt, anything.
All I can come up with is his parents said sexual sin was next to murder and he has consumed that guilt.
His hate for us came out of nowhere, but I guess if this is what he is holding onto it makes sense. My girl and I discuss everything, and this is something we didn't even remember.
I am mostly mad because it has taken a long time to work past what he did. Mainly because he was like a family member.
She is happy, moving on with her life, and the douche nozzle has to write a letter to remind him that, 'hey, remember me. I didn't want to see you, but I will write and tell you how to repent'. I am angry tonight. I know it will pass, but how dare he. She respected his space and walked away, now he needs to leave her alone.
She wanted me to write here and get some opinions on if she should say anything or if she should write. She knows I get on here (she is not ready for it yet), and wanted opinions.
Oh, the real winner line. He writes about all that for half a page, and then says one more paragraph by saying, 'on to more joyful things ("not that the glory of repentance isn't happy")...hahaha. No really.
I am sad, more for him. He is not the same boy at all. He was full of sarcasm and laughter. Now, he is like a robot and has to interject a happy moment with an excuse of why he is not talking of the gospel.
He had so much potential and now he is going to the BYU grind and hanging out with the homeboys from his mission. He had plans to travel the world and also, he was a really cool and funny person.
This letter was so bland, weird and unlike him, it actually scared me for what they do to missionaries now.
So, I got sidetracked, but why the hell now? Why does he feel the need to write. He has no clue that she has doubted (only I know), so it is not to reactivate. He knows nothing about us in the last year. He doesn't know I have quit. He would probably recoil in horror at how awful I am now (even though nothing has changed). So yep. I guess she has to repent, and I need to repent because I want to punch him in the nose for placing himself back in her life (in a sense). He has like 8 weeks left, if that makes a difference, but holy hell, go away self righteous prick!!!
Is it really in the handbook to annoy the hell out of people when they need to forget them from their lives.
It makes no sense.