Posted by:
dogeatdog
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Date: May 21, 2015 12:35AM
You should read up on 'attachment theory':
http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/a/attachment01.htmSpecifically, you should look into the 'Anxious-Preoccupied' attachment style: "Anxious-preoccupied adults seek high levels of intimacy, approval and responsiveness from partners, becoming overly dependent. They tend to be less trusting, have less positive views about themselves and their partners, and may exhibit high levels of emotional expressiveness, worry and impulsiveness in their relationships."
I have read that if you have this attachment style, it is helpful to discuss it with your partner so that they have an understanding of where it comes from and perhaps the why. Also, you may be able to reach some compromises of what you both think is reasonable as far as him 'checking in' with you that would allow you to feel more at ease, and allow him to feel less smothered.
Hope this helps!
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/21/2015 12:38AM by dogeatdog.