For all your love, advice and support.

Me and the wife (her mostly) have decided to separate over this issue (me cussing out her meddling dad added some zest as well). I am sure in a few months after the dust has settled, we will both remain friends and things will be fine.

My father in law asked "why do people leave the church, but can't leave it alone". Simple. It is destructive and leaves a void for years to come with events like these. I am glad that communities like this exist so we can help one another, and keep us level headed.

A little edit: This has come to pass as her dad is negatively influencing her, convincing her to divorce me. Christ like indeed.



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My best wishes to you as you move into this new phase of your life. You sound upbeat about the future despite your present difficulties, and I really admire that.

I agree. We all need to vent. It is unhealthy to not have anyone to talk to about all that we have "endured". blech

I am sorry about your seperation. I hope that things will turn out for the better, as the dust starts to settle.

What an incredibly difficult situation. I'm so sorry to hear this has happened, it didn't need too. (damn cult)

What a shame to find out she prefers the church to you. I guess she gets what she deserves.

Seems like for her DAD the church is just more important than you. You are second class. And she agrees. I am glad that you seem strong because I think a new phase of your life is beginning that will not have to deal with this crazy cult. Take time to sort things all out, but don't be afraid, ever, to BE YOU!!!

The "family" church strikes again.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Good luck through the transition.

I hope your wife finds life with daddy, her cult and some future looser Mormon just what she is looking for. Sigh.

Meanwhile, expand your horizons. Your life will be open to greater opportunities and enlightenment.

Sorry this has happened. Any children?

I was just about ready to post a message to ask if there were any updates with your situation. I am so sorry that you have to go through this, especially when a portion of your pains are caused by a meddling third party. I wish you all the best, and hope that you have all the support you need to make it through these pains.

Been there,,done that. My ex divorced me because I would not re-join the mormons,,and take her through the temple. We had a good marriage,,2 great kids,,a thriving business. What a joke about family values.

Sorry to hear about your situation. My ex-FIL also had a significant hand in pushing me toward a divorce. It was prior to me coming out as a non-believer and my marriage had few, if any, redeeming qualities. My ex-FIL conveniently had a "revelation" by the power of his priesthood that there was another man who would come into his daughter's life and make her happy.

Boy, I wish that other man would hurry up and marry his daughter so I can stop paying alimony!

Human love is real and cannot be replaced by an institution. Single Mormon mothers are not like nuns who "marry" Christ. If you have the ability to remain decent to her, pay your child support (and the alimony, too), she may see that you're the Christ-like one without the CHrist.

I am reminded by the terrible story of that old stake president who gave everything to the church--gave his wife's time, his children's time, his personal time, and then when they grew up became a carousel temple ghost. Round and round he went babbling for dead people day after day all the while thinking this life of dedication, why the church would take care of him.

He ended up in Heber and neighbors found starving/freezing/sick and basically abandoned. I can't remember all the details, but I always think of him when I encounter people turning their backs on those who love them --LOVE THEM as individuals--and choose anonymous corporate fake love. It's delusional. This story became public, I can't remember where, so

Some of you old exmos might remember the old stake president Heber story- if so, fill me in....tks