Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: October 02, 2015 03:27AM
I think my children were born independent and able to think for themselves. We raised them as Mormons, until the youngest was 8, but they never did believe the Joseph Smith story. They were naturally not racist. They had too many good non-Mormon friends and teachers, to believe that Mormons were better than everyone else, and that Mormons were going to a special heaven, where non-Mormons were not allowed. That's the way they put it.
I got divorced and moved to Utah, and none of us were prepared to the crazy fundie ideas. We thought the Utah Mormons were nuts--until we realized that this was the norm. These were ideas directly from the Prophet and the Apostles here. Yikes! The SS and Primary teachers taught my kids that because we were a divorced family, that we would not be together in the hereafter. They also taught that my children were still sealed to my wife-beater ex-husband, to whom I was married for a little over a year. I got a divorce to save my life, but was never granted a temple divorce--until I resigned from the cult, and proclaimed the marriage null and void and of the Devil, and never of God.
One Saturday, I realized that the Mormon church was the only thing that caused us to argue. I sat the kids down, and asked them why they hated church so much--I really wanted to know. They told me that they had been physically abused by the priesthood leaders. They leaders had broken into our house and into the boys' rooms, pulled them out of bed onto the floor, kicked them around on the floor, and shoved them into their closet to force them to get dressed. They kicked them in the backside, on our stairs, and pushed them into the car. They drove them to church, when they were only half-dressed, and forced them to stay there--to be ridiculed by the other boys and girls. This happened several times. One of my daughters told us that the bishop's ugly older son had molested her, when she was 11. They were at a church campout, and she was asleep in her sleeping bag. It woke her up and she screamed. The bishop, the bishop's daughter, and many others heard her, and witnessed what had just happened. They bishop threatened the kids not to tell anyone. My sons were also threatened not to tell. Within seconds, WE WERE OUT, FOREVER. I told them they never had to go to church, again. They didn't, except one daughter got engaged to an ex-Mormon, who turned around, and forced her into a temple marriage. That's why I need RFM so much.
Anyway, my children never got on drugs or alcohol, like the Mormon neighbor kids did. They didn't get pregnant. We went to the Lutheran church for a while, and my sons joined a neighborhood non-denominational Christian Scout troop, and became Eagle Scouts. They had some fabulous camping trips, to Yosemite, Wind Rivers, Catalina Island, and Yellowstone. They were on soccer, football, baseball teams. Piano, guitar, singing, dancing lessons. Good students. Had a lot of non-Mormon friends, many of which are still life-long friends. The boys had a two paper routes, and the girls did babysitting. They all went to the University of Utah, and worked their way through school. They are out-going, honest, happy, healthy and fit, kind to others, loving, and generous. Really! I'm so proud of them! Two live within two blocks of me, and the others less than 5 miles away. They have good jobs, which they like, are married, have children, own their own homes, travel, etc. We are very close as a family, and we have lots of parties and celebrations together. I love to play with and babysit the grandchildren.
I must admit, that it pleases me no end, to gloat in the faces of those who have shunned us. Some of the Mormons have tried to find out how much money my children make--they see their nice homes and fancy cars, and wonder how ex-Mormons can be happy and successful. My kids are successful because they have worked hard all their lives, and have integrity and stability. No MLM's, no nepotism, no schemes--they are just good people. Mormons are always looking for shortcuts, and ways to circumvent the law. Being straightforward wins every time. In your face!