Posted by:
DNA
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Date: April 20, 2011 08:20PM
Sexuality is a complicated thing. It has many levels. There is what you find sexually stimulating and aroused by. There is the gender roles you want to play. There is the stigmas that you want to avoid, etc.
There are some videos on the net that prove that a guy getting a blow job from what he thinks is a woman, but is really a guy, feels really good to a heterosexual guy. Once he finds out that it was a guy, of course he's rightfully pissed. So the sex feels good regardless. It's the rest that is the problem.
Most guys can't get over the stigma of homosexual sex. If you aren't naturally Gay, or have gotten used to the idea, it's revolting. Similar to how we think hairy legs and underarms on women is revolting, but some Europeans don't. But all that said, the "money shot" in heterosexual porn can't just be there for the benefit of woman viewers.
So everything is on a scale with a thousand shades of gray in between each end. So on the purely natural attraction scale, it's not just Gay, Bi, or straight. It's all the thousand points in between. And if you could separate out Gender Roles, Stigma, etc. people would fall in many places on that scale, and probably in a somewhat broad range.
Then you have the Gender Roles scale, and people are all over that scale with a thousand points on it.
What people find revolting can really change with knowledge, and immersion.
Mix all those scales up and blend them together, and you have a combined scale with a thousand points on it for the overall sexuality of a person.
I did research using Craigs List Ads in my graduate program. At first I was revolted by the Couple for a Man ads that were wanting a Bi guy. But I got used to them. In porn, I'm revolted by guy on guy stuff, but a little less so if a woman has most of the involvement. I have no idea where I'd be without cultural conditioning. Homosexual sex was a lot more common in ancient Greece, and wasn't stigmatized like it is here. Perhaps we'd be very similar, absent the social stigma?
I would assume that the more closed minded you are, the more revolting homosexual sex would be, and the further down the scale you would fall. But take the same guy and raise him in a more open society, and he'd probably move further towards the middle.
A lot of Heterosexual guys have homosexual sex in prison, and they just don't think it counts. Somehow they got over their revolting, and enjoyed it(consensual, not rape). In prison it isn't as stigmatized.
I've never been attracted to guys, but who knows where I'd be if I was brought up in another society. For some, the pull is so strong that nothing would dissuade them ie born with it. Some arent' born with it, but can learn to like it. And tons of other combinations.