Posted by:
omreven
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Date: December 12, 2015 04:06PM
I'm a nevermo, and I have heard this story many times on the board. A lot of times, they are wonderful and friendly up until the very day you get baptized. Their job is done. They fellowshipped you into the tub, and now they can go back to their regularly scheduled lives. What also amazes me is the animosity towards converts. Converts are inherently flawed and evil from the pre-existence, which is why they were "punished" by being born into a nonMormon home, and worse, born into a poor home, and worse than that, with dark skin. For a church that has such a high focus on converting people, you'd think converts would be treated better. In my opinion, you'd think converts would be better and "golden" because they had to *work harder* to get to the "one true church." It wasn't just plopped in their lap by being born into it. Being BIC is easier.
You are definately not alone. As a nevermo, it's clear that they don't want to be friends once they realize there's no way I will ever convert. I am considered evil and "stinky tuna" at this point. At least I have a *reason,* no matter what a stupid and hurtful reason it is. It has to be incredibly difficult to be so devoted to the faith, probably *more so* than the average BIC Mormon, and fully rejected in such a way.
Mormons exist as 12 and 13 year olds back in junior high, with the cliques and the "mean girl clubs." It's hard to wrap your brain around these grownups, who somehow manage to exist in the "real world," are so childish and immature at the same time.
I dated a TBM years ago, who had a bachelor's and was working on a master's degree, served in the Army National Gaurd, and was a high school teacher, and was so incredibly naive it left my head spinning.
There are plenty of people who joined, and the huge draw was the social aspect, the social support, and the friends who all seemed to think the potential convert was the next best thing to sliced bread. You were quite popular and these people are nice, wholesome, friendly, and then you get baptized, and it all fizzles away. Gone. Except for the obligatory home visits.
I'm sorry you had to deal with this.