Posted by:
Anon4now
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Date: January 26, 2016 05:44AM
My experience wasn't exactly refusing a calling, but I think it may qualify. When I was in high school, somebody got the bright idea to have a couple of youth representatives attend the teacher inservice training.
I was informed on a Friday that I had to give the "lesson" Sunday and the topic was chastity. To say no would get me disowned, so, I baked a cake, fuming the entire time.
When I got to class, I waited for everyone to settle in. Without saying anything, I took the cover off the cake and plates and forks out, then looked around and said how nice to see everyone.
"Before I get started, would anyone like some cake?"
"Yes, I would."
"Me, too."
"Hey, how come nobody else brings treats?"
As you can imagine, looks were exchanged...some were sure they knew what was coming. I can't explain why it hit me wrong, other than I didn't want to be there in the first place, I really resented having to be front and center with little warning, especially on a topic I hated and was Sick. To. Death. of hearing ad nauseum.
I never think of the right thing to say at the right time. Never, ever. But for once in my life the idea came full blown and I knew exactly what I was going to say.
"A little or a lot?" I asked, knowing someone would ask for a big piece.
Once I had the order, I reached past the knife and dug into the side of that beautifully buttercream-frosted chocolate cake with my hand, dug out a huge piece, and then dropped that handful onto a plate, scraping my hand off along the edge. I handed it to the guy, who took it with a weird look on his face.
I got some gasps, some laughter, and an "Oh my gosh!" But, if anything, the leaders looked more smug.
"Who else wants some?"
Not so quick now to reply, waiting to see what happens next, I guess.
"Not so appetizing, is it, to have something just shoved at you? Presentation matters. I think we need to be careful when we talk to others that we don't come across that we think we're better than they are, or that we know what's best for everybody. We don't convert people, God does. We shouldn't make God have to shout over our actions."
I was shaking by the end of it, but I covered by using a napkin to clean off the cake on my hand. People started giving examples from their lives and it was a fairly lively discussion. I didn't have to say much of anything else the rest of the time.
I cut everyone a piece of cake, except the guy with the 'handful' piece. He wouldn't give it up, and ate the cake with a smile. The main leader who'd dumped the assignment in my lap at the last minute, however, didn't want a piece of cake. He caught me at the door on the way out and asked me why I didn't "speak to the assigned topic that came from the brethren."
"Well, brother dipsmack, (see how brave I am after the fact?) I just felt so inspired, I couldn't deny it."
What could he say to that?
Funny thing, I had people come up and tell me they'd heard what a good job I did for weeks after. But the powers that be never asked me to do anything in that ward. Boo-hoo for me, hah ha ha ha hah.