Posted by:
latebloomer
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Date: April 30, 2016 11:19AM
Do you have to hold a temple recommend to dress a deceased family member for burial? (My husband is still a TBM, but he doesn't know the answer to this question, either.) My TBM mother is in her nineties, and I feel anxious about all aspects of her impending death/funeral: re-entering a ward building while I'm grieving; being "comforted" by the doctrinal pat answers of well-meaning, ignorant TBM's; being asked to participate in the program, having to "come out" to more of my siblings (possibly?), etc. I'm sure that many of you tougher cookies would handle all this with great finesse, but knowing my sensitive self, I expect it to feel like trauma on top of trauma. My mother's only wish, in regard to me, was that I flourish as a TBM. I disappointed her so intensely in her elder years that she ignores me when I attempt to talk with her about it. I'll be dealing with a lot of grief when she's gone, and I'd like to find ways to minimize the superfluous stress. Some of my siblings might not know that I've left the Church--I really don't know how far word has spread (we're friendly but not that close). Some of my sibs are high-ranking TBMs who will take charge of the funeral details. I'm afraid they might ask me to help dress my mother for burial, and I'd like to answer that question in an informed manner. Thanks.