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TheBishop'sDaughter
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Date: May 10, 2016 02:10PM
I was talking to my husband about why I am SO happy to be out of the church. Then we went down the singles ward memory lane and through all of our interesting dating experiences, and we talked about this one...So I am wondering if anyone else had guys try to manipulate them into doing what they wanted based on their "personal revelation". One of the worst ones for me...I JUST graduated HS and started going on dates with this guy who was fresh off his mission. We dated for a few weeks and he decided to drive me to the temple for a date. We walked around the grounds and talked and then he sat me down and said "I've received revelation that we are supposed to get married." This wasn't even a proposal, it felt like a command...I felt totally stunned! And confused-because as a 17 year old girl who had been brainwashed into thinking that the priesthood somehow holds some special magical powers I took what he said into consideration in my head for a min, then realized I had not gotten that feeling AT ALL. I told him that I was not feeling that way and that I didn't think it was right to start planning a future together. He was genuinely PISSED at me. Red in the face and raising his voice! I think he felt that I had wasted 3 precious weeks that he could have been finding some other chick to manipulate into having his babies. I had similar experiences with a couple other guys who wanted to control me and my life with their "priesthood power" and I would resit every time because I am a very independent person. What I learned from the singles ward was that everything they taught me in YW's about men was crap. RM's are just like any other man, they aren't holy or superior beings in any way, haha! From seeing RM's in that light it lead me out of the mindset that I needed a peter priesthood (who bored the crap out of me anyways!) and I found my husband who was real and never acted like the church was more important than me. PHEW! I am glad I didn't get conned out of the life I love now! Did any of you ladies have guys try this "angel with a drawn sword" technique on you while dating? Share some stories! :)