Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: September 24, 2016 02:48PM
Most of us here on RFM are waaaay beyond the Mormon lies.
Actually, my children and I had all left the cult, PRIOR to learning that it was a hoax. I had been marginalized as a divorced single working mother, and my children had been disrespected because they were from "a broken home" My dear little ones were threatened, in Primary, that each one of our family would wander alone in the hereafter, "passing each other as strangers" for all eternity, if we didn't pay tithing and attend meetings.
The cult was used me as a slave organist and pianist and teacher, and, unlike my real job, didn't allow me any sick time. I was away from my home and children for over 6 hours on Sundays, with rehearsals, etc. The few times my sons went back to bed on Sundays (after their paper routes that began before dawn), the priesthood leaders (big, adult fathers) barged into our house (I was away doing the music at church), pulled my boys out of bed onto the floor, kicked them, and forced them to put on church clothes, and shoved them into a van and hauled them to church. What religion does this? Is this Christ's way???? There is nothing that can excuse this behavior. It is physical child abuse.
After leaving, I went online with a question about temple marriage and divorce, and finally got real answers. I swallowed the bitter Truth pill in about three weeks, staying up all night, and allowing my work to suffer, while I wrapped my mind around the horror of being lied to my whole life.
That was years ago, and I am a long way down the road from all that. I am still coping with the guilt of putting my beloved children in harm's way--allowing a cult to intrude itself into our family, and intercede in my raising of them, and invade my home with HT's, VT's, unreasonable and worthless callings and directives, etc. Mormonism was a nightmare for us!
I was relieved to discover it is a hoax. We were joyful to find out we could resign. (The Mormons had told us that the only way out was excommunication)
Most of us here on RFM have already resigned. We would never go back. Some of us, like me, have PTSD, and are unable to set foot in a Mormon building, without flashbacks and anxiety.
I'm also recovering from having all my Mormon "friends" shun me. Have you ever been shunned? It makes you feel terrible, and it attacks your fundamental self-esteem. These Mormons were/are my neighbors. We worked on our church callings together. Our children grew up together. They spent time playing at my house. I took them dinners when they were sick. We went to each other's parents' funerals, and cried together. Now, they don't even make eye contact with me at the grocery store. RFM reminds me that I'm not alone, and there's nothing wrong with ME. RFM gives me the confidence to go out and make new friends, and to strengthen my healthy non-Mormon friendships.
When we became inactive, our in-laws disowned us.
I have to "recover" from seeing some of my grandchildren brainwashed and baptized into this evil cult, and receiving their invitations saying, "_______(grandchild) has CHOSEN to be baptized..." when there is no real "choice" at all. My own grandchildren think I am "bad" because I'm not a Mormon.
Mormonism breaks up families, and RFM helps me deal with all of this.
We on RFM already know more of the truth an most TBM's know. The debates are over.
It is dealing with the residual Mormon abuse, slander, gossip, and rudeness that will be problematic as long as there are Mormons in our lives.
RFM would go away, if Mormonism would go away.