Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: October 23, 2016 04:22PM
Unfortunately, some TBM women and men are so married to the church their brain cannot accept anything outside of it. It's all about: I'm right, you're wrong, and once you are wrong, you are evil, influenced by Satan and to be shunned, and if possible, your children must be turned against you (taken away if possible also), as you are no longer worthy to be their parent. There is a huge fear that you will influence your children and they will follow Satan also and the TBM can't have that~ ~!
Then, sometimes, the LDS family "circle the wagons", so to speak, and turn against the Satan influenced evil in the home. They lie (for the Lord, of course) to make sure they are protected from this evil in their home.
They often tell the most outrageous fabrications in court when under oath also in order to make sure they are seen as the only good, worthy parent.
Children, caught in the middle, in order to keep the acceptance of the LDS parent side with them, and will also like about the other parent, often accusing them of despicable things that did not happen. It can get nasty in a hurry.
If you're lucky, you'll get, at least, minimum visitation of your own children. If they are older and out of the house, they often take sides, including any grand children.
My hope would be that you can retain relationships with your children and any grand children.
This is likely going to be a bitter, nasty mess for a very long time. The longer the TBM can drag, it out, the better. They want everything their way or you pay and pay and pay, not just in money.
You'll learn how to adjust to a very different kind of life that you never imagined! The good part? It's your life, lived the way you want. You are now taking your power back and owning it!
This type of TBM wife (and often her generational family) have given all of their power to the LDS Church and have no idea what kind of harm they are causing to their own children for generations.
My advice: know your rights! Document everything that happens. Keep good records. Get well informed about the laws in your state regarding divorce and make sure you have an attorney that will have your back. The really good attorneys are often extremely expensive. The only people who make money in a divorce case are the attorneys, as they say!