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Anon4this
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Date: October 26, 2016 10:14PM
Something to consider...
Young people who've fallen away from their faith tradition are susceptible to turning back at some point, sometimes after marriage, or having kids, etc, and if/when that time comes, they want to to return to the faith tradition they know. Happens with Mormons, Christians, and Muslims too.
I have a little experience with this.
When I was in college, I dated a girl from Iran for about a year. She told me all about the Iranian revolution, because she lived through it. At first girls just had to tie their hair back with a scarf, and that expectation slowly increased (assuming what she told me was true). She was very Americanized and told me she was not religious. She was so "Americanized" that we ended up breaking up because I caught her lying to me multiple time and cheating on me. In the meantime though, we spent a year humping like bunnies. Twenty-five years later I get a friend request on FB from a mutual friend, and I see lots of photos of my ex-girlfriend. She's wearing a headscarf in all of them.
When I graduated from college I moved to Washington DC for work. I met a gorgeous Turkish girl who had just arrived in DC for college. She was short and curvy and we clicked instantly. She had lived in the US since she was 16, though, and was "Americanized" and "non religious." We dated for a couple years, and by the end of her first semester she had moved in with me. We traveled to NYC, Orlando, New Orleans, London, Paris, etc. I had met some of her "uncles" off and on, but at one point they told me that I'd need to convert, or stop seeing her. I ignored them, and about a week later I went out to my car in the morning to discover that my tires had been slashed, every metal panel was dented, and the windshield was smashed. It freaked both of us out. She wanted me to pretend to convert, so we could get married. I didn't want to convert, for real or pretend. It created a wedge between us and things fell quickly apart. Coincidently, I had a job offer from NYC, so I took off.
Fast forward about five years, and I've moved back to DC. At a Friday night happy hour with a group of friends and colleagues. I see a gorgeous, svelte petite woman in a little black dress and skyscraper heels looking at me as she made her way across the bar. To my surprise, she didn't stop until she was embracing me. She looked so different--very slender, waist length hair, etc--that it took me a minute to even realize who she was. From that first embrace, she literally didn't take her hands off me for the rest of the night.
We clicked again immediately, of course, swung by her place where she ran in and threw some things into a suitcase, and she spent the next couple nights at my place. We lived and worked on complete opposite sides of town, though, so on Sunday night I dropped her at her place, and we planned for me to spend the next weekend at her place.
I met her downtown again. We hung out for most of the evening and then headed back to her place pretty late and went straight to bed. I got up to use the bathroom in the morning, and she wasn't in bed. I realized that she was doing prayers in the living room. I didn't say anything, but it sort of weirded me out. A bit later she crawled back into the bed where we'd been humping like bunnies all night long, and we humped like bunnies some more. When the Sun illuminated the room, I realized that there were multiple Korans and stuff on the bookshelves by her desk.
It was too much for me. She credited her faith with helping her transform herself, and didn't I like her "new body?" Yea (but I liked her chubby curvy body too). That I didn't need to "convert," just go along, etc. Sadly, by the end of the day we were broken up again.
I don't mean to brag like I'm Joe Stud. I just want to illustrate how Westernized, and "sophisticated" these women seemed to be, and yet both reverted to their faith tradition. I'd suggest you be absolutely certain that this girl is out and never looking back, and that's almost impossible to ascertain in advance. We never know what the future holds.