Posted by:
dogzilla
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Date: February 15, 2017 03:50PM
"How common is it for adults in relationships to have affairs?"
According to this article on NPR.org, about 20% of married people admit to having affairs. Another almost 10% did not answer, so the number could be as high as one-third.
http://www.npr.org/2015/07/26/426434619/sorting-through-the-numbers-on-infidelity"Is it justifiable if you're in a sexless marriage?"
You can justify anything you want to justify. Personally, my moral code would say either get counseling or get divorced. I cannot justify infidelity IF that is the relationship agreement. I cannot also abide a sexless relationship IF sex was on the table at the start of the relationship agreement. I can say, sure, maybe the relationship agreements should be revisited. That can and probably should happen periodically.
"Is it ok and perfectly normal to go one's adult life never really having a normal sex life?"
I don't think that's okay nor perfectly normal. That said, normal is a setting on a washing machine. Everyone defines "normal" differently. I also think if the sex life is healthy, it's not that big a deal in a relationship. If it is not, then it's the ONLY deal. It's huge.
"I think this has to be a fairly common problem in mormon marriages or marriages where at least one partner is mormon."
Correlation does not equal causation.
"How do people stay married when there is sexual dysfunction?"
Sex therapists? Renegotiating the relationship agreement to open the relationship? I don't know. This is why I so strongly advocate for sex prior to marriage. Then you know what you're getting and you can determine BEFORE the contract is signed in blood if you are incompatible. That said, relationships change.