Posted by:
pollythinks
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Date: April 19, 2017 11:56PM
My husband wasn't. He wouldn't let me leave the house without asking me if I needed any money. The problem was, he didn't really have much to give ($10.00-30.00 cash).
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badassadam: "Its exhausting just to think about asking a Mormon family member for help again while I get another surgery. I never knew how stingy Mormons were".
Polly: I think it largely has to do with large families, and so much expected to be donated to the church (tithing, fast offering, ward budget, SCOUTS, and so forth, let alone having to pay one's own living expenses). Also, sometimes members forget that "families come first" (and in my opinion, before church donations, if really warranted).
Also, surgery is usually very expensive. How much "help" were you hoping for? $1,000, $10,000? Is the "help" to be considered a loan, or a gift? And, how much would you be prepared to do likewise, if someone asked you for such help?
Besides, this kind of problem is not just found in Mormonville, but in families in general.
And the church suggests government help for extra needs, where this is available.
Oh yeah, and how about the groups where someone asks for financial help, and many just chip-in, in response. (Making a big bill easier to pay.)
At any rate, I sure hope for the best for you, both in the surgery, and getting financial help.