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Date: April 27, 2017 09:46AM
mica Wrote:
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> I don't know what to do. I joined the church about
> 2 years ago, some sister missionaries found me
> when I was very lonely and vulnerable.
Rethink this. Do you really believe it was happenstance? It's much more likely that you were targeted in a vulnerable period by a MIL "grieving" her exmo son and his nevermo wife. Your "rescue" is much mor likely to have been a carefully orchestrated and timed move br a mormon vuture.
I was a new
> mom and in the year since my daughter had been
> born I had lost all my friends. My husband was an
> ex mormon but his whole family was lds so it was
> easy for me to become involved in the church.
Imagine your husband's heartbreak and dismay. He had escaped, only to see his beloved nevermo wife sucked into the con.
And
> I believed SO HARD. And now I teach primary and I
> sing in the choir but I don't know how I ever
> believed all this nonsense, and I don't want to go
> anymore, I don't want my daughter raised in this
> church, but we love with my husbands mother so I
> can't leave.
Don't you love your husband and daughter first, and best?
I cant take it back, because my whole
> family, they wouldn't hate me but they would all
> be so disappointed and they are good people and I
> love them.
At what point do you decide that you're the mom, the one who gave birth, the one (along with your husband) who gets to say what your daughter should be taught in her developmental years?
I don't face a lot of pressure to be
> temple worthy,I drink coffee and I don't tithe and
> nobody cares, so I am going to just keep going to
> church and keeping people happy,
They are taking it easy on you, to suck you in even more deeply, getting you fully enmeshed. You already feel only obligation toward the church, but keep going. Do you really believe that nobody cares? Man, do you ever have that one right. Their ultimate goal is your husband and *his* daughter. The perfect situation would be to suck him back in, divorce you, he finds a "real" mormon girl to marry. They know that your loyalty was not programmed at the age your daughter is being programmed. They already know that you are not a "real" bic mormon, they *DON'T care* about you.
YOU are serving as "the crack" they want and need in your husband's armor against his and your daughter's bic indoctrinations. Where does your loyalty lie?
I figure by the
> time my daughter is 5 or so we'll be able to move
> so I won't have to explain myself to anyone,but in
> the meantime I feel lost,
You are not lost. They tried to brainwash you, it didn't "take," they know it. The trick now is to make you feel obligated long enough to pressure your husband. Imagine the strength it took for him to leave, find you, start living a free life, and then...
I found this forum so I
> can talk about this with someone. I miss my old
> Methodist church. I miss being an atheist. I don't
> want my daughter to grow up being told that her
> number one goal is to get married and have babies.
Talk to your husband. Like you have expressed yourself here. You are not alone, and he can help you, you can help him. It sounds to me like he may have been very patient with this whole mormon intrusion into your lives, though you didn't really say.