After all these years, I'm finally breaking the law of chastity tomorrow. I've had plenty of chances but never had the courage,,but I don't care anymore. I'm so nervous.. wish me a luck guys

I hope you don't feel you need a support group to break your virginity.

What's so special about tomorrow?

Relationships involve much more than getting laid. If that's all you're expecting from your tryst, you will not be disappointed.

Use highly effective birth control. Take your time. The first time may be great or it may be meh, but remember that sex, like any skill, will improve with practice. Have fun!

are you a female ?

I hope your are being ironic, when you refer to sex as "breaking the law of chastity." This would not be a very positive attitude towards something that should be natural and fun.

There's a difference between "having sex" and "making love."

It's a worldwide activity that has been going on throughout the history of humankind. I hope you are in a trusting loving relationship. If so, no worries.

A tip: don't take it too seriously. First-time sex (and most sex thereafter) is better when it's fun, rowdy and uninhibited rather than earnest and anxious. Good luck. Have fun. LOTS of fun. Often.



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Good luck. I was wondering the same thing, whether you were male or female. Either way, just relax. Is it the others first time also? If not, they should be able to prepare and relax you.
If you're female, just relax, maybe have a drink to relax you.
If you're male, don't drink too much, if its performance or embarrassment, you're worried about. Have you been told horror stories or something , about " the first time" , from the church?
I'm sure you've , by your age , heard more good stories , than bad.

I would also advise using a lubricant like Astroglide for the first time. Sex doesn't have to hurt the first time and can be prepared for appropriately.

Itzpapalotl Wrote:
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> I would also advise using a lubricant like
> Astroglide for the first time. Sex doesn't have to
> hurt the first time and can be prepared for
> appropriately.

I absolutely agree with this!!!

We used a condom, I was a virgin and scared (on a couple of levels), and because I was scared, there was seemingly no lubrication at all.

Ever since, my advice has been:

Use lube!!!

Well I can remember the first time I had sex.

I was scared out of my mind.

Because I was all alone.

at least you were having sex with someone you loved.

Make sure there is consent from all parties and have fun!

Law of chastity.Barf.How about the Law of Mutual Consent.Thats the law I follow or well at least during my single life.Now it's the law of Monogamy and being a good husband.

Be sure to debrief us how unspectacular it was.

Ziller is going to want pics.

I was 30 and had been married for two weeks when I lost mine. And I am a nevermo. I love my husband, but damn, it hurt.

Make sure there's mutual consent, and use lube as it will help especially if you're still nervous.

Remember that it takes some work to get good at it. It might not be all that heavenly the very first time.

Yup. Like most things in life, practice makes perfect.

We wish you luck and lots of practice. Be safe and have fun.

I'm waiting for the OP to "return & report..."

Nice to know that someone else was offended by this Post. What a complete lack of taste and manners.

DumbLawyer, can't you take a hint? We figured you would have gotten a clue the first four or five times that your replies to the OP were removed.

You do not get to decide what is appropriate to post here. If you believe that something is inappropriate, feel free to report it, but don't keep complaining if the mods disagree with you.

This site was set up to help people recovering from Mormonism, and having normal attitudes about sex is an important part of that. We do ask that people keep it PG-13ish, which the original poster did. The mere mention of sex, or the concept that someone might have it for the first time, is hardly salacious.

If you don't like the thread, then don't read it. If you can't help yourself, then at least don't pick on new posters who are here seeking support.

CZ (admin)

Yeah, DL seems to have misunderstood my post anyway.
I wasn't "offended" by the OP.

I wanted to know how it turned out....

just cozy on up to the butt and do whatever feels right.

As soon as I looked at the OP's handle, I wondered about the seriousness of the post. JKA = 'Just kidding Around' and mond = 'Monday'. Maybe my imagination is just taking things too far but I wonder if maybe everyone just got spoofed.

It doesn't matter. We are here to help people who come seeking advice and support. If this was a spoof, it didn't hurt anything. If it wasn't a spoof, attacking or ignoring the poster could harm them at a vulnerable point in their life.

The admins are constantly on the lookout for trolls and troublemakers. If you see a post that you think is not legitimate, please report it to us. Otherwise, assume that the post is sincere.