Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: July 11, 2017 02:05AM
I like this last advice.
You do what makes you comfortable.
You don't have to justify yourself to us, or to your mother or sister, or to anyone else.
I am one who HAS been in your shoes. I think Susie Q has, too, and several other posters. Most of my clothes were hand-made, and hand-me-downs.
You might feel better if you go back and look at things from your mother's perspective. You wrote that your mother's wardrobe is very important to her! Clothes could potentially be a shared interest between the two of you--something you have in common. Yes, I agree that she has a need to be appreciated (people need more of that as they get older), plus she is reaching out to you, because she cares about you. You could help her choose her clothes, because you will be wearing them, someday. Take an honest look at yourself. Could you be a bit resentful that your mother spends so much time and money on her wardrobe, and you have less than she?
I think it's important to consider the fact that you look good in the clothes! Your mother wants you to look good, and you admit that looks are more important to her than they are to you.
Maybe your sisters are jealous, because they would want to wear those nice clothes, and either can't (they don't fit, or they don't look good in them, etc.) or your mother doesn't offer any clothes to them. Your sisters might resent the attention your mother gives to you, and not to them.
The hand-me-downs I wore were fabulous! Some were designer outfits, and much finer than I or my parents could ever afford. Most of them came from a friend of mine who is a celebrity, from a wealthy family in our neighborhood. You would know her name, if I told you. When I mentioned to her how much I appreciated all those lovely formals, back when, she laughed. I asked her what was so funny, and she said that the formals were hand-me-downs to her, originating from another friend of ours, who was two years older. I forwarded the formals to a friend who went to different schools, so the outfits weren't seen by the same people. I was excited to give my wedding dress to my cousin.
These lovely ensembles made me feel good, not bad. It was all fun! If someone made a comment, I would answer with, "Yes, it's vintage. I'm enjoying wearing it!" Appreciation was my genuine response. I think it's a mindset, that's all.
My very favorite dresses were the ones my mother made for me, and I still have some of them, that I saved. I never bothered to save the store-bought stuff.