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rogertheshrubber
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Date: May 26, 2011 09:31AM
I wish so much I had never heard of Mormonism. One year ago, the wife I had treated like a queen informed me, via E-MAIL, that she had filed for divorce. When I visited her and my son six months later, I stumbled upon a document while searching through law school notes she had kept for me. The document contained two priesthood "blessings" she recieved while we were separated.
These men told her that God wanted her to choose faithfulness to him above all. They also told her to remember the pioneers, and how they had to leave behind their old lives to show their faith. Then they promised her power and riches and all the other boilerplate stuff. In a very passive aggressive way, both men told her, in the voice of God, that she needed to divorce her apostate husband.
I was not blameless in the divorce, but I tried really hard to reconcile for 10 months. She would never even sit down for mediation. How was I supposed to reason with someone who had already heard "the voice of God," though? Now she is telling me that because I betrayed my whole family by leaving the church, I am the kind of person who damages all his relationships, and she cannot let my son be around me.
I gave her everything she wanted in the divorce, and more. While she has been struggling with unemployment and depression, I have completely supported her financially. My support has always been more than generous, and I have never been negative in front of the child. Now I feel forced, when I arrive in Utah, to wage a legal battle I never wanted.
I am beyond pissed off here. Seriously. I just got so fucked by the whole mormon mentality. God before husband. Church before family. I cannot blame TSCC for my divorce, but they sure meddled. And the three of us will be worse off for many years because of it.
Fuck. Joseph. Smith. And his fucking cult.
I don't want to discuss legal issues or get too personal, but I really felt a need to vent this. Thanks for letting me.
Adam
EDIT: I just found one of the copies I have of one blessing. The othe one was longer and even worse. Here it is, edited only for names:
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DXW, by the authority of the Melchizedek Priesthood, I anoint you with this oil, which has been set apart for the blessing of the afflicted and the sick, and I do this in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
DXW, by the authority of the Melchizedek Priesthood, and in the name of Jesus Christ, our Savior, I seal this anointing which you have received, that you may be blessed in every way that you need at this time in your life. I bless you with physical safety and security, that you will know that you are being protected and that you do not need to fear for your safety or the safety of your son, [NOTE: I HAVE NEVER PHYSICALLY HARMED MY EX, AND HAVE ACTUALLY BEEN LESS PHYSICAL WITH OUR SON THAN SHE]
that you will have a wall of protection around you, that no unhallowed ,person or thing can pass and can harm you as long as you are being faithful. And I bless you that you will be strengthened to be able to weather the storms that surround you at this time.
At this stage in your life, the adversary wishes to discourage you and turn you away from the things that will bring you the most joy and fulfillment and that will lead you back to your Heavenly Father’s presence, and to true joy and eternal life. He will do this through making you feel alone and isolated from others. He will do this through discouraging you and through building up your fears and making it seem that there is no way out. I bless you that you will be able to know that there will be an end to the challenges you are facing at this time. You are feeling the shadows around you, but I bless you that you may know that the morning will soon come, and that the sun will dawn brightly and will allow you to see things more clearly and to see that you have passed through these things and have weathered the storms and have been FAITHFUL.
I bless you that you will have an understanding of your forbears and the challenges that they faced, which were different on the surface from your challenges, and the persecution they suffered, the hardships [BY THIS TIME, I HAD SPENT THOUSANDS SHIPPING HER EVERYTHING OF VALUE WE OWNED AND HAD PAID OVER 30K IN SUPPORT] of crossing the plains, of sacrificing--leaving behind people and places that were dear to them--so that they could follow the promptings of the Spirit, and the call to move to Zion and to do the things that would bless their families. You now are on that journey, DXW.
You are having to scale difficult mountains, and I bless you that you will have the faith and the courage and the strength to do this, to take each step and NOT LOOK BACK, to keep looking forward towards the light that is ahead.
You will be tempted to do the EASY THING, and you may have a hard time feeling totally at peace with the decisions you have made, [SHE STILL LOVES ME DEEPLY. IT WAS ONLY THE BITTERNESS OF HER FAMILY MEMBERS, WHO ARE ALL UNHAPPY IN THEIR MARRIAGES, THAT PERSUADED HER TO FILE - SIDE NOTE, ANOTHER MARRIAGE IN HER FAMILY JUST WENT TO HELL. SHE SAID IT IS MUCH WORSE THAN OURS.]
because of the fact that they will bring pain to others and pain to you and to your son. I bless you that even though you may not feel a complete peace and calm in your heart, you will be able to trust in the decisions you have made. You will also be able to trust in the advice of those who love you and who have other experiences, and who can see your situation from a different perspective. And so I bless you that you will have the courage to go forward, to do what you know that you need to do for your eternal welfare and the eternal welfare of your son.
[FUCKING BRAINWASH BULLSHIT!]
And finally I bless you that you will be able to trust in the Rock of your Redeemer, that you will know through this experience that your Savior Jesus Christ does live, that his Atonement has great power in your life and in the lives of all of our Heavenly Father’s children, that you will feel the sweet peace that comes from leaning on his arm and trusting in Him, of receiving his forgiveness and his love, and of abiding in his light and allowing it to guide you through this time in your life.
I also bless you that you will be able to think on your grandmother for whom you are named, who also faced great challenges in her life, and who came through with faith and who was blessed for her faithfulness, and who now is at peace and has done great things, things that will bless her progeny and will bless generations to come. And you likewise will be able to do this and will be able to live up to her example. I seal these blessings upon you in the name of Jesus Christ.
Amen.
WOW. WHAT A RELIGION!
Edited 4 time(s). Last edit at 05/26/2011 10:28AM by rogertheshrubber.