slskipper Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > In my family, every night is family home evening > night.
There ya go. :)
Still at work. Heading home soon, where my 2 year-old will come running out the door to give me a hug, my 16 year-old will have homework she needs help with, and my lovely wife will have dinner ready.
Don't need no stinkin' set-aside night to love and appreciate and help my family.
I know that really makes no sense, but that's how beer affects me. Isn't it sort of sweet how affect and affection have the same first six letters? I learned that from the bible.
We still have FHE Monday nights. FHE is still a very much ingrained habit for us. I don't see anything wrong with it so why stop? Having the family together is always a good thing. Instead of a church lesson we now do a life lesson or motivational though, maybe discuss the latest scientific discovery of the week, or SpaceX rocket landing or whatever is interesting and inspiring that week. No FHE is complete without a fun activity or game and we still always have a treat. That is probably not a good healthy choice but it's a habit that we just don't care to break. FHE for us is now more about togetherness and less about some mandatory church lesson.
I live alone, so no FHE here, but if you strip all the churchy stuff from it I kind of like the idea of a regular family get-together. A chance to touch base, maybe play games, have fun. But I'd leave anything religious out of it. I suppose the Mormon higher-ups could never imagine doing THAT.
On Monday nights -the traditional FHE evening - in the fall and early winter I watch football with a beer while keeping an eye on the kids playing on the floor in front of me as my wife rests after caring for toddlers all day.
In the spring, we often go for a walk with the dog after dinner. Then I play the piano while the children dance around the living room (their dancing is somewhere between actual dancing and roller derby minus the skates) and my wife rests on the sofa.
In the summer we usually dine outside and play outside until dark.
ya know? When I was a nevermo married to another nevermo, I heard about the family home evenings, and I thought, "They have to make an appointment to be with their families? Why?"
I had a DH who came home at the same time for supper every night. We had a routine that included him and me talking to each other while we did the dishes together, and a time of reading out loud while the kids colored before bed every night. It was fun, and our family was close.
Then my DH had a heart attack and died suddenly; the family life imploded---
I remarried to my current TDM. Lo and behold, so much service and church happened that making an appointment to be together even once a week would have been a big improvement. So there ya go---what you haven't experienced you can't even guess sometimes.