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I was a meal ticket
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Date: December 29, 2017 04:23AM
I agree that you should "get it in writing", so you will benefit legally from his income which you have increased 10-fold!
Many wives are now writing up legal agreements with their husband that they are putting through medical and law school, etc. Too often, a clever sociopath will marry a woman, just to have her put him through those years of school, only to divorce her when his education is completed.
This happened to me. He was a complete sociopath, and conned me into marrying him, by pretending to be something he was not. He was NOT a scholarship student at an ivy league university, his "scholarship" was bogus, he was a close relative to a GA and he was a returned missionary, but he had been immoral, a liar, and in jail for assault and battery. He had beaten his sister so badly, that social services removed her from their home. The thug was needed at home to do farm labor. This jailbird had been allowed to go on a mission, because his GA relative pulled some strings. He had stolen some money, which he was living on when he met me and rushed me into an engagement, after dating him only a few weeks. He was extremely jealous and possesive, and immediately scared away my other boyfriends. He was physically aggressive, trying to have sex with me, but I held onto my virginity, to be married in the temple. We were engaged only 4 months, before we were married, and most of those months were spend apart. I married him without meeting his family first, because his father was a mission president in a far-away country. Does this sound like YOUR courtship, Saddo?
This is typical behavior of a man wanting to use a woman. I had money and a good career, and I put him through BYU, for as long as I could, until I had to divorce him to save my life. He beat me almost every day. Unlike Saddo, there was no doubt in my mind that he didn't love me and that he was using me. I knew I didn't love him, after the first beating, but I stayed in the marriage, because it was the temple marriage I was raised to have, for eternity. Divorce was a disgrace that ruined me, in the eyes of my family and friends. No decent man would have me.
Finally, I chose to be alone forever, rather than married to a creep that I despised.
I was beaten and tortured as a child, by my older brother, who was the school bully, and my TBM parents didn't protect me. I already had PTSD from that, and after being married for 2 years to a wife-beater (he would cry, and pray, and say he loved me, and promise to change) made my PTSD worse. I'm fine, as long as I avoid large, violent men, and the Mormon cult.
You can get help with PTSD, like I did. I was able to carry on with my career, and live a successful, happy life.
Get psychiatric help for your PTSD, while you are married.
While you don't have to work, look for a good, interesting job that pleasant, and not stressful. Find a good, clean, healthy work environment, with windows, natural light, maybe outdoors, active if possible, working with nice people. Selling real estate was ideal for me. I got my license in just a few weeks, actually during final exams at the university. My money had run out, and I needed an instant income, until I could find a job using my Bachelor's degree. I was hired by a great company, and stayed in real estate until I retired. Flexible hours. I was my own boss. I didn't have to deal with bullies who triggered my PTSD--I would just refer them to someone else, and get a nice wad of cash for doing so. It was the best of all worlds.
You are young, and you will find your way. Some people would think, your marriage would be ideal, except I would be afraid of getting a STD, because I doubt your long-distance husband is being faithful to you. Use protection, please!