Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: January 24, 2018 03:47AM
Exactly, Koriwhore.
Responsible parents owe their children the truth. Children need to know reality, in order to deal with reality. They need to learn how to function in the REAL WORLD.
Studies have shown, that children of hypocritical parents, who put on pretenses for social or religious reasons, have very CONFUSED children.
You teach others by example, and by pretending, you would be teaching them to be dishonest. They will lose trust in YOU. They will lose respect for you.
Not to mention what pretending does to your self-esteem, and your own sense of identity. I tried to pretend for a while, and it ate away at me. When my children were abused by the priesthood leaders, I refused to condone or excuse that. Abuse was unacceptable, and unwelcome in our home and in our life! My children respected me for standing up to groups of men. I demonstrated to my kids that I put them first. I would protect and nurture them, always. Leaving the cult together brought us closer together.
You can't pretend that bullying and physically assaulting children is OK. You can't pretend that polygamy is OK. You can't pretend that pedophilia is OK. Taking 10% of people's incomes, and telling them it's "God's money," and then spending it on malls and resorts and real estate--can you pretend that's OK, too? I don't care who you are, or what your reason for "pretending", by doing so, you are only supporting the Mormon cult. The cult is perfectly fine with you just going through the motions!
My last years as a TBM, I tried to delude myself into believing that the cult was "a good way to raise children." I tried faking that I enjoyed stuff that was boring and tedious. I tried relating to teachings by old-man polygamous prophets, which had no benefit in my present life. I tried making friends with people who marginalized me for being divorced and single. I tried having something in common with Mormon mothers who didn't work outside the home. It was especially hard to smile at Mormon racist and sexist comments. I lost friends, when I couldn't let the slurs go, without saying anything.
Really, I don't know HOW someone can keep pretending. It was impossible for me.