Posted by:
Mannaz
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Date: January 27, 2018 09:34AM
It takes some time to 'release the bonds' and that will make you feel less defensive. That will make it easier to be calm. Maybe also pick a couple of items that become a standard retorts. Mine were my personal ethics were in conflict (e.g., I won't lie). My mental health is better (give concrete example of something observable that has changed for you). I can't accept that a man like JS could be a prophet (say if you're testimony can handle it let's start by readinf the Polygamy in Navoo essay together point by point - convince me point by point.
Probably the biggest is to demand respect for you believe that you have for theirs. Tell people can look at same information and reach different conclusions.
And call them out on behavior. What they are doing is unkind to you. You are out in part because you see church policies as unkind. Release you inner 'humanist'. (Maybe read "Men Handcock's Handy Humanism Handbook" which is short and and will help you get a better mindset and framework within to formulate strategies - this helped me. On Amazon and like .99 kindle and 6.99 paperback.
https://www.amazon.com/Jen-Hancocks-Handy-Humanism-Handbook/dp/1463780656/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1517063585&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=Jen+Handcock%27s+handy+humanism