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Mother Who Knows
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Date: March 21, 2018 11:33PM
Yes, all those GOOD things will happen if you resign. My children and I were suddenly happier, but in our case, we were victims of Mormon abuse. Not only were we harassed and maligned as we left, but before we left, the priesthood leaders beat up my sons in our own house, and the bishop's son tried to molest my little girl at a church camp-out.
Resigning was the only way we could achieve "justice." With us, nothing would do but make a complete break with that evil cult.
In your case, you might want to weigh the consequences, whether they are fair or not. Would "character assassination" effect your job? I can guarantee that this will happen, along with gossip, and flat-out lies spread about you and your family. Figure out how vulnerable you are. In my case, the people I work with are all non-Mormons, and my career can not be hurt by stupid gossip. My children have close non-Mormon friends--lifetime friends--who would never believe Mormon gossip, anyway. Most of our neighbors have been hurt by these nasty Mormon ward members, also.
When we lived in the same ward as my fanatic TBM in-laws, my ex-husband went "inactive", and the children and I still went to church. My mother-in-law called me almost daily to argue and blame ME for my husband's inactivity. The in-laws ended up disinheriting us, anyway. It was not worth my suffering her wrath and hatred. It would have been healthier for all of us, if we had just stood up for our convictions and openly resigned.
Everyone's situation is different, and I can't predict exactly what your particular parents will do.
We all know that your family will know--the whole ward will know--immediately. The good news is that our resigning FORMALLY, doing it the way the church dictates, stopped 80% of the harassing.
Remember that the MOrmons have no authority over you! They have no authority with God, either. You don't have to jump through their hoops. You can just stop going to church. You are free to do this! Why make waves, just to follow even more Mormon rules? Resigning will give them one more shot at you! You do NOT HAVE TO meet with the bishop or anyone else. Just say, "I'm no longer a member, and you can't tell me what to do, anymore."
You are officially resigned the second the church receives your letter. This is why we sent our letter by "registered return-receipt mail. The date and time on the receipt is the date and time we were set free.
You might want to resign to protect your children! You can include their names on your letter of resignation, which is what I did with my children. They actualy cried, when I told them they didn't have to go to church anymore--they hated it that much! (They loved school, BYW, and were good students.) They never did buy into the JS story.
IMO, your children will have a better life, without having their Mormon grandparents and other Mormons pushing them into baptism and missions, etc. I felt that the resignation was a gift to my children.
How can people expect children to stand up to an evil, conniving, brainwashing cult, when even the parents can't cope with it? My advice would be to set your children free, and you, as adult parents, deal with whatever fallout comes your way. Protect your children!