Posted by:
motherwhoknows
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Date: June 07, 2011 02:17AM
My latest story is one hour ago. My brother asked about an old high school friend of ours, and I was telling him about how successful and happy her family is, and some of the significant details in their lives--their marriages, law school, med school, careers, grandchildren, etc.
My uber-TBM interrupted me with, "But are they IN THE CHURCH?"
Meaning, the church activity of the sons was much more important, and everything else is just babble.
The children and I certainly could have used family support, when my husband ran off with another woman. Though I had the temple marriage, as a good Mormon girl should, I was never in the bishopric like my two brothers were. My parents paid for their houses, trips to New York, cruises, fancy clothes for my SIL's, braces and medical bills (no health insurance) for their kids. My children needed love and attention, but they didn't get it--and neither did I. We were on our own.
My children are great human beings! They're happy, loving, honest, successful, and they left the cult. My brothers' TBM kids are corrupt, lazy, mean, selfish, dishonest. They went on missions, though, and that's all that matters.
I'm wondering if perhaps it was for the best, that financially we were forced to live in another town, and be independent, away from my parents and TBM inlaws. Their manner of withholding love, and using emotions to manipulate, was toxic. The cult was toxic.
Though, down the road, you might end up better off, at the time, it hurts like hell to be rejected by your own parents.
Thomas Monson, himself, their Prophet, Seer, and Revelator, admonishes parents to "give more consideration" to their children who are faithful in the church, than to their apostate children. I'm not kidding! Mormons believe that is apostates are properly shunned, that they will return to the cult, dragging their tails behind them.
Where's the love?
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/07/2011 02:18AM by motherwhoknows.