Posted by:
Tevai
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Date: May 23, 2018 12:28AM
I am not gay, and I am one of the nevermos ("never Mormon") here on RfM (for various reasons, there are a few of us), so I (personally) don't have the insight and advice you are looking for, but...
At sixteen, you are still a minor, and you are required (pretty much by law) to do what your parents want you to do (or not do) until you are 18--and this presumes that you will have the means (from a job, or savings, or a sympathetic relative or friend) to leave your parents' home on or about your 18th birthday.
This likely means putting off most dating for a couple of years (and I absolutely do understand the difficulties involved in this), while you are making your post-18th-birthday plans.
If you have a relative (a grandparent, or maybe an aunt or uncle or cousin, or a grown sibling you are close to) where you can go to live for awhile, this would be wonderful.
This may impact your higher education plans, so you need to check out local options: community college where the units are transferable...perhaps a public vocational school. If you have some idea of what you want to "do" in your adult life, this is great. If you do not know, this is the time for you to be going into active search mode to find something which will work for your interests and desires for, maybe, several years (if not for the rest of your adult life).
If there are gay groups at your school or in your community, join the ones which work for you. There are also Internet resources for GLBT+ teens (and discussion boards similar to this one), and these can be sources of valuable information and tips, as well as potential friends (or more).
If you have a GLBT+ Community Center within commuting distance of where you are now, I very strongly suggest that you get over there ASAP and check out what they offer. I am familiar with two of the GLBT+ community center groups in my area (I have done volunteer work there) and I very highly recommend them as potential sources of information you need to know... of social support...and they are great places to meet people who can be friends, or more. (Ditto if you have a Gay Film Festival, or GLBT+ oriented movie theater, in your general area. I have seen some incredible GLBT+ films, and I highly recommend them in general.)
There must be some kind of (at least: informal) "meet-up" place, whether in person or on the Internet, for LDS gay teens, so I would check this out as a possibility, too. If so, then that place would have Mormon-specific information and advice for teens in your same LDS "place."
One way or another, you can work this through, step-by-step, to a "place" where you can create the adult life you want, so take advantage of the next two years (before your 18th birthday), because you can get a whole lot done right now if you are creative and you start thinking "outside the box."
My best wishes go out to you, and...
Welcome to RfM!