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Date: June 12, 2018 02:03AM
If anything--being single into your mid-twenties, getting married outside the temple, transferring out of BYU to a better university, being dark instead of blonde, being popular with the men (she must be promiscuous), being too friendly, not dressing just right, not wearing the Mormon underwear, doing yard work on Sunday, smiling and laughing too much, having a hard time in life, having it too easy in life, being sick or disabled, having a divorce in the family, not having enough money, having too much money and not giving enough of it away, being a licensed teacher or a professional musician, attorney, or even a doctor and not giving away your services for FREE to Mormons....
Good Lord, I could fill 5 pages of reasons that the Mormons have for shunning good people.
Shunning is abuse. I believe it to be an act of hatred, as in racism and homophobia. It is a way Mormons can have power over a person. It is a way Mormons can get even if someone doesn't meet their demands. It is a way for Mormons to feel superior.
It is "a sickening attitude of pernicious entitlement."
--Well said, Anon42day. Thanks for your understanding post.
Mormon shunning is not just crossing over into cult behavior--Mormonism IS already a full-blown cult. The shunning aspect of it has always been into play--sometimes leading to murder, castration, banishment, confiscation of land, in the early days of Mormonism.
I consider shunning an overt act of hatred. There's nothing "passive-aggressive" about it. It is downright cruel. It has led to suicides! A shunner wants you to feel like nothing, to be unhappy, to feel unloved, to fail at having friends, to ultimately be case into "outer darkness." Anyone who wants bad things for you is certainly NOT YOUR FRIEND.
It took me years to realize this, with the Mormons who were especially phony and two-faced. Some of these fake friends were family members. All of them gossiped behind my back. My in-laws spread lies around our old ward, when their son abandoned me and our children for one of his women, saying it was all my fault, saying that I wouldn't allow my ex or the in-laws to see the children, bla-bla. My children needed love and support, and the in-laws called and said, "Don't expect any help from us." They lived only a mile away, and never bothered to see or even call their own grandchildren.
Shunning can be a blessing in disguise. I wonder if most shunners are horrible people, at heart. My shunning Mormon in-laws had close relationships with their temple-sealed TBM grandchildren, and gave them a lot of money. 6 of them are on drugs, and have been for years. One died of an overdose last month. The oldest grandchild committed suicide, a few weeks after graduating from BYU. She left a note, telling exactly WHY, and yes it was because of cult pressure to be perfect, and she was close to it. One grandson took his money and bought a van, and followed The Grateful Dead around the country, for two years, frying himself on drugs. He still has a problem. One went on a mission, and quit the cult when he got home, and is in rehab, right now, divorced and living in his RS President mother's basement. Three turned out OK, though they are struggling with debt, and OCD and anorexia. What a TBM house of horrors! Thank goodness my children didn't get involved with these cousins as friends, and as examples, giving them advice?
Not to brag--but my children deserve to be bragged about--my children turned out very well. No drugs. Athletic. Good students. College graduates. Happily married. Great parents to their own kids. Good careers. Nice houses nearby. Loving, loyal, empathetic, with lots of life-long friends. They are not racist or prejudiced. They aren't full of hate. Our lives couldn't have turned out any better.
What kind of life experiences would you have, if you were surrounded by people who delight in making you feel bad? Oh, we already know, because we have been Mormons.