Posted by:
ender88
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Date: June 11, 2018 10:55PM
A year ago today was the last time that I spoke to my brother. 11 months ago, I made this post:
https://www.exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1997098A lot has happened since then, but the end result is the same. We won't speak.
I continued seeing a mental healthcare professional, and that was most helpful. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and bipolar disorder, but with mood stabilizers I'm just fine.
In the past year my entire family discovered the rift between my brother and myself. They unanimously sided in my favor, regardless of whether or not they were mormon, my parents included.
Today on the anniversary, I find myself conflicted. I've heard that my brother regrets what happened, but feels he's owed an apology. I've had a few phone calls from him that I rejected, and I returned a Christmas gift entirely untouched.
But I'm still angry. And hurt. I miss him. I've seen photos of my only nephew, the closest I will ever have to a child of my own. This is the nephew I was forbidden to meet. And I mourn the loss of a relationship that never even began. But I can't bring myself to even consider budging on this. Not at all.
I won't speak to him. Not until my brother changes will I speak to him. My brother's condition for me to meet my nephew was to rejoin the church. I've now decided my condition for him to return to my life is to leave the church. He can't be 'sorry' but still expect amends to be made on his terms.
Anyways. I just needed to vent. It's so convoluted and messed up.