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Emperor-Librarian
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Date: September 01, 2018 03:36AM
I make more money than my husband. I am younger and am better at both earning and saving money, so my earning potential is higher. I take this seriously and am not going to allow my husband and I to become financially destitute chasing someone else's goals or lifestyle. I earn the bacon then I cook it as well.
My husband is a TBM, that would never say no to a calling, no matter how much it inconveniences him. He has passed up more money at work because it would have gotten in the way of his callings. The amount of money he earns is just okay and he is starting to get up there in age, so I'd never push him in his career as I see it as waning anyway.
The way I see it, the church isn't beating down my doors to pay my bills or make sure, we aren't poverty-stricken in retirement.
Yet, when I show up at church. Everyone is under the impression that I am stuck in my job. That I can't wait to quit and that if I didn't have these pesky jobs in the way, I'd be molly-morming it up like there is no tomorrow. I think it is part cultural expectation and part husband trying to save face.
Having your wife work... or even worse. Having your wife work on Sunday equals failure. You aren't providing as a man and you aren't living the full gospel.
No matter how successful I am in my career, that is how they are going to see it.