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Date: October 02, 2018 07:46PM
continue. With my son, he stayed in mishie mode until he had been home for at least a couple of months.
My very chatty, gossipy letters, deliberately full of questions about the mission experience, almost always went unanswered. What we got in return was mostly robotic testimony-bearing.
I asked him why he wrote like that, some months after he got home. He said, that's what they were told to do. Nothing about the mission experience itself, interesting "happenings," the food, much about the area - and apparently these letters were to remain unsealed until they had been reviewed by somebody higher up the food chain. (We didn't have e-mails in those days.)
I said, in no small measure of frustration, "But I asked so many questions, trying to give you material to write about!" He said bluntly, "Your questions drove me nuts, because I wasn't allowed to answer stuff like that."
We eventually gave up hoping to hear from our "real" son. His dad had been on a mission too, but he said that their letters home could be posted without prior review, so he did tell his parents things about the mission. And his comp wrote and told his parents when DH became very ill with a parasite infestation and lost about 60 lbs over a few months' time. He even sent a photo, to show them how ill DH was. I've seen that photo. He looked like he had been in a concentration camp.
The MP's wife gave DH a "yerba" or herbal tea that was considered a local cure-all, but it didn't seem to affect the parasites in any negative way.
That's when MIL all but threatened to castrate MP with a butter knife. She verbally ripped him a new one, and demanded that DH be sent to a quality hospital in the capital city somewhere down in Central America. She was not one to argue with.
So DH was hospitalized for a couple of weeks, given medicine that just about killed him (he was told that the medicine had to be very potent, to kill the parasites, see) and for a time, he looked like a scarecrow in his suits.
Anyway, we became accustomed to news-free, testimony-laden letters, and just hoped Son would recover when he got home. He did. He and his family are out now, and he even drinks the occasional cold one with buddies after work.
The daughter you raised may be lost to you, for a while. But she is still there, inside that robotic outer self. Don't lose hope. Keep writing chatty letters about everything going on at home - Mom's latest hairstyle, cousin's new car (oy, it's such a junker!) Make them as vivid as you can. While she may not acknowledge it, a part of her is longing for this connection.
All things churchy are her environment now, so that's what you hear about. It's your job to keep reminding her - with as much detail and humor as possible - that there is a parallel world out here, with people who love her in it.
You aren't in this alone. Keep us posted as often as you need to!! ((HUGS!))