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caffiend
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Date: October 04, 2018 10:28AM
PollyDee Wrote:
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If all else fails, contact the local Welfare Government
> agency to do a welfare check.
Get the business number of her local police department. As a retired cop, I know that vulnerable young women sometimes call a trusted relative (fathers, especially) when they have a dangerous crisis, instead of 911. So it's possible she reaches out to you, which could escalate a problem (or crime) in progress. If she's in Utah, and you're in Nebraska, you can't call her 911--it reverts to your city department. So you need the Utah phone number (available on their website).
A visit from the police sends a signal to the husband.
You tell the person who answers you are out-of-town and and have knowledge of a crime-in-progress, and want to be connected to the dispatch desk. Share what you know, especially your daughter's condition (pregnancy or presence of a baby). The rest is up to the local cops. Ask how you can obtain a copy of the police report that follows.
Returning to PollyDee's point, above:
The daughter called mom, crying and in a panic attack. An appropriate action would be to call her police department and ask for "a well-being check," which we do when people haven't been heard from, newspapers & mail haven't been collected, children haven't attended school, a person's medical situation is uncertain, etc. It would go like this:
"Hello, 'XYZ Police?' I'm calling from PDQ, Nebraska, and received a disturbing phone call from my daughter who lives in XYZ, and believe a well-being check is needed. Can you connect me with your dispatch desk?..."
HeartbrokenMom, you need two files (at least). #1 is resources in her city: her bishop and stake president, social workers, police (especially if they have a family violence specialist or unit), shelters, other churches (especially if she was brought up in a denomination), her husband's police records, local politicians, etc. Anybody and any organization that might be helpful.
#2 is YOUR paper trail. Keep a journal of phone calls, texts, pictures & images, police reports (they're public record), summaries of conversations you've had with others (bishops, police, etc.)
Knowledge is power. A controlling, possibly abusive husband wants to control his wife, your daughter, and isolate her from outside resources (family, especially, a cultic tactic) and information. Your job is to be loving and available, and very discreetly create an armory of knowledge.
Godspeed!