Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: November 29, 2018 07:14PM
No disrespect (well,maybe a little) but I don't see how a woman like your wife who hasn't worked and sacrificed her entire life for a paycheck, could possibly understand what an unreasonable demand tithing is.
This year, give her the tithing money--as a gift to her, outright--to pay the tithing herself, or to do anything she wants with it. Put the cash into her hand for her to feel and count. As a mother, thoughts might flash through her head, of how she could help her kids with that money. As a good wife, she might fantasize about a vacation for the two of you together. There are always repairs needed on any house and most cars, doctor's bills. It would be worth more than the money, to get your wife THINKING!
Tell your wife that, from now on, she must go to tithing settlement and pay that tithing money you give her. Make it positive. She can have the "joy" and the respect of giving to her cult. SHE must be the one to meet with the bishop at an inconvenient time. SHE must be the one to answer the prying and obnoxious questions about your income--or present the necessary tax documents and pay stubs, if they will be required. Just smile and tell her you are done with it. It's HER church, and it's up to HER. I would tell the children, too, and let them see all that money that their mother is going to hand over to the cult. Just show them the Truth, without saying much at all. If your kids want something extra for Christmas, say, "Ask your mother. She has a drawer full of cash, right now. If your wife wants something, say, "Sorry, I can't afford it since I gave you that chunk of cash for tithing--maybe next year."
Too many of us tiptoe around the Mormons, and even join in on the lies, for the sake of keeping the peace, or out of fear of losing something. Why not let the Mormons reap what they sow. She should be happy you are still paying tithing, and needs to be willing to participate in that.