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Posted by: sb ( )
Date: January 06, 2019 12:31AM

The Mormon Church is a Burden.

Many including myself have gushed about what a great thing the Mormon church is in our lives.

They talk about guidance, they talk about relief, they talk about making friends.

They talk about a safety network. They talk about humanitarian aid, about improving the lives of others.

In reality all of these things are independent of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

These things just happen when people help each other, the church just happens to take credit for it.

They are a financial burden.

The church is a financial grindstone, no it only to the members were blackmailed into paying 10% of their gross income and make additional donations.

It is also an enormous burden on communities that must compete against tax-free enterprises, it is also a burden against societies who shoulder the share of the Mormon Church’s tax-free set up.

For the individual is not just the tithing, it is the donations it is the mission for their children; it is their own mission as they near retirement and secured a nest. it is the damage that comes from magical money thinking that leads to untold bankruptcies and ruin. A notoriety only mentioned outside of Utah.

They also reach into the pockets of family trust and wills to try to get as much money as they can out of a person before they leave this earth. Yes, they have an entire system to shake down wealthy couples for their kids' inheritance.

However they're willing to contribute less and less, even to their own members any kind of help is always tied with promises of obedience and future tithe. They cant fund scouts, they cant clean the chapels, they can't even warm the buildings.

This sets up a corporation that has billions of dollars in it's coffers, and at that point, instead of reinvesting into the church and it's basic doctrines they turn around and spend that money into profit making schemes.

All of this happens, of course, without accounting for a single cent or paying taxes.

They are a social burden.

Mormonism isolates you from the reality of your social environment. This often includes racial and economic exclusion.

They have a social caste system, where the elite rule and get the benefits of forgivable loans, book deals, massive salaries, construction jackpots, free properties, cars and vacations.

The financial perks drip to a stop soon down the chain. The next stop is for those who get the social recognition, the perks of leadership down to the average member, the inactive, the non-member and at the bottom the ex-Mormon. Have you noticed how every bishop and stake president now tends to be the ward's most successful lawyer or dentist? There are unwritten rules and programs on what act to put on for each of these groups.

These exclusionary and elitists practices makes members socially handicapped and place an untold burden of them to try to move up an imaginary ladder for the rest of their lives.

They have a hive mentality that the church has used to turn political leanings into laws at the expense of social liberties and human rights. Sometimes they blatantly reach out politically to influence outcomes or if that does not work, change the law after it was chosen as the will of the people.

They are a mental burden.

This is the worst.

The members are tasked with sorting out which revelations are from God, after they have made life-altering decisions based on them and finding them to be false. They are asked to ignore the mistakes and lies and focus on the things that do work out. This creates disasters in people’s lives, as the leader’s guess at social and spiritual issues and then are forced to deny or change their utterances to match science, social trends or historical facts. There are tens thousands of women this week who lived lives of subjugation because they veiled their faces and promised to obey their husbands as they obey God, and this week they must quietly swallow that this promise and practice was swept under the rug, the same as their feelings about it.

This gas-lighting is so pervasive that many members who leave the faith are unable to ever believe in God again and end up in recovery for years after leaving Mormonism.

They teach that people must be guided exclusively by proven logical and thinking errors. People are then asked to live by magical thinking in a reality based world.

Such abuse, such as miracles not happening as promised, are systematically turned against the believing as a sign of a trial of lack of faith. This leads to victim-blaming and a general ignorance about science that excludes them from any significant scientific or social contributions to their fellow men.

They are also tasked with making important decisions in life by turning over decisions as grave as medical procedures, divorce, abuse, education, marriage and finances, to an untrained and ignorant neighbor, who is tasked first and foremost with giving out advice that benefits the church the most. That is the best case scenario, most turn to any man in their family or worse to a scripture passage that hey must read into like a magic 8 ball.


They are a Particular Burden on Racial Minorities.

They continue to practice ugly 18th century mystical and racial teachings. They cling to the narrative that American Indians are somehow from Israel and that non-white skin is a curse from God. They have stolen the American Indian culture and replaced it with magical Indian farces that are evil. They use this narrative today, as they try to convert new members, all of this while they scramble to reword the Book of Mormon to remove racial references. The racial lines are silently reinforced as biracial couples are discouraged and leadership at the top is 98% white while almost half of the membership is from non-white countries. Now that society has pried them off the backs of "lamanites"and blacks they simply discard their promises and refuse to apologize.

They are a Disproportionate Burden on the Poor.

For the poor members in 3rd world countries, the burden of tithing and their own racial identity is a particular burden as many as in dire need of “blessings” and their tithing often means not feeding children. The promised blessings never come and the church has the gall to lend them money with interest in order to bind them with loyalty and usury to the church. These people think that their incredible sacrifice is going to help another, poorer soul; little do they know that it is the lifestyle of the leaders that their hunger maintains.

They are a Burden to civil and Human Rights.

Their immense financial strength burdens same gender families, as they valiantly claim to be the defenders of heterosexual monogamy, while at the same time ignore the thousands of children married in polygamous ceremonies brought to our society by their leaders. They fought and defamed the civil rights movement that forever stained their members minds with racist conspiracy theories that are still whispered from father to son. They literally circumvented democracy this year and called their legislature to change the law.

They are a burden on human development.

From bad advice regarding family planning, to using electroshock on gay men’s testicles, the Mormons continue to fight human progress. From Quakers living on the moon to reformed Egyptian, they continue to fight science and facts, delaying and dragging human progression, science and development.

They are a Sexual Burden.

They claim people’s sexuality as church property, and use it to control behavior and allegiance to the church. This results in many unhappy marriages for heterosexuals, child abuse, guilt, ignorance and exclusion for gays. They tell you what clothes are sexual, what underwear you can wear, who you can date, and they have even told members what sexual positions they allow. The sexual guilt, abuse and frustration have made tens of tens of thousands of Mormons unhappy about one of the simplest and most personal of human experiences.

They are a Burden on Women.

The church was built on exploiting women. They were used as rewards, bartering tools, victims of sexual deviance, solitary servants, as breeding equipment, and as easy votes to further the church’s power.

The history of the church is filled with the tears of women who were sexually targeted, buried babies in shallow graves, were told who to marry.Women who were prevented a normal life in order to be child sex slaves to the leaders. This trail of tears goes on today, as women are told how many earrings to have, what clothes to wear and are excommunicated for asking questions, merely because of their “tone”. Their are literally crying tears of joy because the church temple video gave Eve more lines than Satan.

It is 2019 and women in the church cannot lead the church, perform an ordinance or give a blessing. They are to religiously obey their male leaders, in many cases that may be their 12 year old son.

In the balance, the Mormon Church is an economic, social and mental parasite.

Some still thrive with this parasite and credit it for their success. Some find comfort in being accompanied, deep inside, with this parasite. Some do not know how life can go on without it.

But it is those of us, who have removed it from our lives that can attest that real life only begins after the burden of Mormonism, no matter how painful the process, is removed.

This organization, like all parasites, looks out only for its self-preservation. It may look like something else, in fact it's mission is to look like a anything but what it is. Doctrine, history, tradition, members and science be damned. It is our duty to, as they say, to warn our neighbors. We will not bow our heads and say yes. We will not nod wen falsehoods are shared with tears. We will not pretend any of it, for anyone anymore. That is the price to pay for clean conscience.

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Posted by: Kathleen ( )
Date: January 06, 2019 01:55AM

Well, sb, here's three of your posts that I've archived.

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Posted by: sb ( )
Date: January 06, 2019 01:11PM

Thank you!

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Posted by: sunnyday ( )
Date: January 06, 2019 10:46AM

Wow-what a comprehensive list. You said it so well. The mental burden is a big one. It saddens me to see my parents, who are in their late eighties, and have devoted so much of their lives to the church, still feel like they are not good enough, and I know part of that is because we are not all active members. I wonder now to what extent the problems in my family were caused by the unfortunate fact of being born into the Mormon church.

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Posted by: Done & Done ( )
Date: January 06, 2019 03:08PM

"Mormonism isolates you from the reality of your social environment."

Yes. This is what makes all the rest possible.

They cut you off from the world which is full of the "natural man" who is an enemy to god. This makes you dependent on them as your sole source of information. They have established that only *they* are to be trusted.

This is when it gets bad because, as you say, " , , , the church's mission is to look like anything but what it is." Which allows them to introduce extreme obedience all while emphasizing that you have free will, or, the fabled "free agency." Ha ha and ha.

I was raised BIC by an extreme TBM family in an all Mormon County in the mountains. For the first time on my mission I was no longer isolated from a normal healthy society. I had given my farewell address on the theme that Mormons---I had been programmed to believe---were the only people on the earth who knew true joy and happiness because we had the fullness of the restored gospel and nobody else had that, We glowed. So there! Even Doris Day couldn't compete.

I very humbly and sincerely stated that I was going to bring true happiness to the people in my mission through the gospel. Then when I arrived in main city of my mission I very humbly and sincerely realized that they seemed happier than me, and, more real. Confusing. I didn't realize yet that I was one of those who was incapable of keeping the blinders on.

Mormonism robs you and tithing is only the tip of the iceberg. The real theft is your deepest self.

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Posted by: presleynfactsrock ( )
Date: January 07, 2019 06:47PM

The statement of Done and Done that in the main city of his mission he was faced with people who seemed more happy and real than the Mormons in his life resonnated with me.

This was something I also saw. Growing up I was not overly brainwashed by Mormonism but I did attend church enough with friends to become aware of Mormonism's promise for an amazing happiness in this life and the next if you married in the temple. I needed and decided I wanted this "amazing happiness" in my life as my home life had been extremely trying and emotionally abusive.

Then, as time marched on, and I had the temple marriage, sooo damn much about Mormonism to me didn't sit right nor make sense. One particular thing was how I found most of the Mormon people to be --- clones that you could count on to think and act one way. I compared them to the other people in my life, people I had become friends with in high school and met at university who were not Mormons,and I came to realize I preferred being with these people because they seemed and were "real".

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Posted by: babyloncansuckit ( )
Date: January 06, 2019 03:25PM

I’ll never be your beast of burden.

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Posted by: exminion ( )
Date: January 07, 2019 07:07PM

I've archived your posts too, sb.

These would make wonderful editorials! I wonder if you could get them published. You are an inspiration for us to follow our conscience, and get the word out.

Every word rings true! Thank you!

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Posted by: anono this week ( )
Date: January 08, 2019 06:09AM

"They are a Disproportionate Burden on the Poor."

This is one aspect I've been thinking about and don't have an answer. Yes we all say the big 12 (who run this 32 Billion dollar empire) should help the 3rd world more, or help the poor more. But how should that be accomplished?

In Mormon world view they think they have a "stewardship" that god literally gave them the money for some purpose (because they were better in the preexistence or something). And giving it to poor people is like throwing it away at the casino. In a way they disassociate themselves from their assets by saying it's held in trust, and therefore can justify hoarding the wealth for some future purpose. A purpose that is never disclosed or admitted to the public, probably because it's selfish?

The only way for them to help others is if they think they are giving the poor people a spring up not a hand out. But that's the paradox... How do you give someone more talents (smarts, skills, and likability) to succeed and to "Lift thine own burden"?

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