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Mother Who Knows
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Date: January 21, 2019 02:54AM
Congratulations, Gemini, if you received the Golden Gleaner Award! Those were a lot of hard work, and I don't think anyone in our ward went the distance to get one. How sad to work so hard to get an award that no longer exists.
I had forgotten about sacrament gems!
I remember singing a lot, in trios, quartets, choirs.
Does the Mormon cult still have "Saturday Night Dances? The Mormon think that all they need to do is shove single people into a gymnasium, turn out the lights, play music, and--presto--they will hook up, like bodies without a mind. I used to think that was barbaric, and centuries behind the times.
Ward and Stake and Regional YW/YM or Mutual or MIA or whatever they called it, were always creating co-ed activities, to get the genders together. Remember the one-act plays? In one of them, I was was forced to kiss my romantic lead, who happened to be someone I had crushed on for years, but we were still sweet, innocent beach-buddies, and weren't ready to take it to the next level, yet. I was so embarrassed!
My friends and I were late-bloomers, interested in school and fun, outdoor types, at heart. The sex-oriented Mormons were always pushing us into relationships that we weren't ready for--and with strangers. When there weren't enough boys to go around for the Gold and Green Balls and other dances, our YW president would recruit men from the university ward. My friends got set up with the 26-year-old son of a Governor, 2 GA's sons, a genius rocket scientist (age 28, and nerdy in an adorable way), and other Mormon returned missionaries, who later became rich and famous as Mormons. What were these older guys doing with giggling teen-aged high school girls? The Governor's son tried to ask all of us out, and would send identical poems to several girls, with their individual names inserted. Another guy smoked and drank (gasp) on the sly. When I graduated from BYU, with no engagement, I was railroaded into a marriage with a stranger, who no one knew very well, but who looked nice and shiny on the surface, and was the relative of an important GA. I had qualms, but didn't dare back out of the wedding, with 250 guests.
I wonder if the Mormon cult still interferes as much in the dating and marriage choices of its members? There's a poster here, Cl2, who had interference, which turned out very badly.
My institute director in the student ward, and other ward members pushed me really hard into that awful marriage. I had been in love with an Atheist, for years, but my parents wouldn't allow me to date him, anymore. I wanted to go on a mission, instead of get married to the man they chose for me. At least, it would give me more time, I thought. My bishop (a wealthy businessman--aren't they all) told me that God wanted me to get married, instead, and start having babies, right away. I was 23, and an old maid. The man I would always love was a continent away, and years away, and he didn't want children. I was in a very bad place, and when you're down, that's when the Mormons kick you. I caved under the pressure, and got married in the temple, and he beat me, for months, until I had to run away to save my life. I was never the same after that. PTSD.
Does the Mormon church still blame the victim? From what I read, the answer is yes!
Dating way too early (My first date was when I was in the sixth grade, with the bishop's son), and forced blind-dating, forced dancing, young engagements and "waiting for the missionary," hasty marriages between youngsters who weren't ready--I wonder if the cult still does all that?