Posted by:
bingoe4
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Date: February 02, 2019 10:51AM
I haven't been on the board in YEARS.
I left Mormonism in 2003 or so, had my name removed. I have a friend from high school who left mormonism and then reactivated in the last 3 years or so. The LDS were horrible to her when she returned. Disfellowshipped her and made her think that all her complications in life were only because she went inactive in the first place. I listened when she was returning and held my tongue most times when she would tell me about how awful they were.
I'd try to impart actual Christian theology about repentance and the grace of J.C. and how that was totally lacking in their disfellowship of her. She has a brother who left TSCC and she was less than understanding about that. I let her know that she needed to ease up on him. She was called to the Relief Society presidency and I KNEW what they were doing. They were tying the ropes tighter to get her more involved. The RS president is a hag and very TBM and not a good person and anger again weld up inside me when she would tell me how she was being treated by the RS press and her ward in general. I'd tell her that her "calling" in her ward would be a paid position in many other churches and tried to remind her that she was a volunteer and could tell them "no" if she needed to.
She texted me last night with a "we need to talk." She had Googled for ways to help fulfill her calling and balance it with working full time and being a single mother...... THAT led her down the rabbit hole to video after video and website after website and after one no sleep night, her testimony of TSCC has dissolved. She asked at one point in the 2 hour conversation, "Did you know about this all these years??!" Ouch people! Made me feel like I should have been more clear in my conversations with her about the BS TSCC is.
Anyway I feel like I'm in a funk today. Some of the anger and sadness has crept back in. She is the 3rd friend I've had a conversation like that with.