Date: February 11, 2019 10:10PM
To Mormons make your wife "worthy" when she pays tithing on your money?
Sorry, Greg, but this is your wife's world--the world of "conditions, delusions, and comparisons", like Moremany says.. She has CHOSEN to live the role of "Mormon RS member". Being a second-class citizen, "humble", and low in the heirarchy goes along with the membership.
I can't imagine how she would willingly subject herself to such a snarky, forbidding group of people, who obviously make her anxious and depressed.
Your wife has courage! LOL--I could give a business presentation to a group of 200 people, and I couldn't wait to get up there to speak, because I was very enthusiastic and well-prepared. What I was doing was helping people, and it was very upbeat, as is my charity work, and I was well-accepted. But--I could never bring myself to speak in Mormon sacrament meeting, about any of the assigned subjects. I could not do it! I could never bear my testimony, either.
Just because your wife is reacting to being pushed down into that little Mormon-minion mold, doesn't mean she is not "worthy." She's too capable and "alive" to shut herself down and surrender like that. I think she will realize this, after a few months of being depressed and uncomfortable. A person can take only so much abuse.
Leave her alone, and don't try to smooth things over for her with the cult. By all means be kind, and tell her you love her, and that she is a great wife and mother, and that she is more than worthy. But--don't protect her from the Mormon snarky gossip. Make her very, very happy outside of church, and she'll soon be fed up with all the manipulation and fear inside. The Mormons don't deserve your wife!