Posted by:
exminion
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Date: February 13, 2019 07:55PM
What a sweet post--and just before Valentine's Day.
There's nothing wrong with giving kind appreciation to your self! I'm always giving myself pep-talks, for example, "You can do this--you have done it before--you have conquered bigger challenges than this." I thought I would reach a point in adulthood, that I could face the world with confidence, but, alas, I'm still needing the same old self pep-talks. I have regrets, like you, only quadrupled, because I forced my little children to go to that cult! They have forgiven me, and are doing well but, still, what a horrible thing for me to do to them.
It helps to give appreciation and encouragement to others, as you have just done! I hope you feel better!
It was not your fault that you believed in something you thought was good. It was not your fault that you obeyed your parents and went to church. Don't beat yourself up for being a good daughter. Congratulate yourself for discovering the truth and having the courage to leave. Isn't it great to be free!
About Bednar--your Gut instincts about people are usually right. Most of us appreciate and acknowledge the people who are working to help us, in our everyday life, no matter where we are, and no matter how much of a hurry-worry we are in. It's no effort to smile (smiling uses fewer facial muscles than frowning does), or say, thank-you, to grocery checkers and bag boys, food servers, airport personnel, teachers, nurses, etc. It is common decency! (Exactly how does Bednar's work help us at all?) He sure as Hell would not have looked past Nelson or Eyring, without making eye contact! Typical suck-up. But the rules do not apply to most Mormons, including the rules of politeness.