Posted by:
exminion
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Date: March 22, 2019 03:01PM
There are worse things than temporary loneliness. I'm not being unsympathetic, but you are recovering from brainwashing, too. You have been brainwashed into thinking that Mormonism is a support system. It is not. When I was able to look at "The Church" objectively, I realized that the friendships were fake, and the sense of belonging was contingent on absolute obedience. When I became seriously ill, and could not play the organ for a few months, the Mormons actually gave me a hard time, and threatened me that I would get sicker, and would fail in life, if I quit my callings, and stopped paying tithing for those months I was not earning any money. They told me to pay tithing, anyway, and go on welfare. I was the sole support of my children, sick and in pain, alone in the world, and all the Mormons did was make things WORSE! I was never lonelier than when I was inside of Mormonism.
Congratulations on following the Truth! Eventually, you will find that losing Mormonism doesn't create a "void" in your life. Instead, it opens the doors to the abundance of life. You will find life to be an adventure! Discovering other religions, as some posters mentioned, is part of the adventure. Re-discovering childhood talents and interests can be exciting. There are so many new things for you to try!
You will find real LOVE in the world outside of Mormonism. Normal people are more genuine. Russ Nelson and the Mormons do not believe in unconditional love. Normal people don't have to be "intimate" with everyone, like the intrusive Mormons demand you to be. You don't have to interview anyone about your sex life, you won't be inspected to see if you match their dress code, or to see if you are wearing the right underwear (good God!), or if you attend all the meetings on time, etc. You will not be put on the spot to make excuses why you won't donate 2 years of your life for a mission, or why you decide to have only one child. Your new friends won't make demands on you, and require accountability if you prefer to do something else other than what they tell you to do. Real friends will value your opinions, instead of tell you what to think. Mormon "friends" to me, were no more than acquaintances, less than business associates. In the outside world, the average man has 1-2 real friends, and the average woman 3-4, not an entire building full of invasive, judgmental snoops.
The Mormons WANT you to feel "lonely" and excluded from the group, so you will want to return to the fold. This is why they shun those who leave. I suspect you are being shunned right now, right? Would you really be "tempted" to return to a group that is cruel enough to shun you and harass you?
The Mormon priesthood leaders came into my house, on several ocasions, while I was away at church, and assaulted my pre-teen boys, who had fallen asleep, instead of going to church. The men threw them out of bed and onto the floor, kicked and shoved them while they got dressed, and kicked them down the stairs and into their van, and drove them to church. They also did this to other kids. Every one of these men were promoted, over the years, up the ranks to bishop, stake president, mission president, temple president, and one is a Seventies. The bishop's creepy older son tried to molest my little girl, while she was asleep in her sleeping bag at a church campout. There were witnesses. These thugs always threatened the kids not to tell about the abuse, and I didn't find out about any of this, until several years later. When my kids finally told me--boom---we were OUT in 2 minutes, and never went back!
Am I lonely for these people? Do I miss the abuse, doctrinal lies, fake history, money-grabbing, their polygamous heaven and depressing pholosophy?
If you ever really feel "the temptation" to return, don't be afraid to go back, because it will only confirm that your decision to leave was CORRECT in the first place. Now that you know the Truth, the Mormons can't suck you in.
Be warned that Mormons can hurt you, though, just like they hurt many of the people here on RFM. The cult breaks up marriages, turns children against their parents, and breaks up friendships. Too many of my own Mormon neighbors have "dis-owned" their own children, for not going on a mission, marrying outside of the temple to someone of a different race, for being gay, for getting divorced, and other reasons. This behavior is not Christ-like. Mormons might try to ruin your business, too. If you leave, they will gossip and spread rumors about you. I am lucky that I don't have to work with or deal with Mormons in my career.
Yes, Mormonism is a CULT. It's a cult.
It is a cult of hate, and "apostates" are at the top of their long list of people to hate. Because of the abuse and the lies, it was hard for me not to hate them, at first, and I was very angry, at first. That passed, but when the aggressive Mormons try to interfere and try to recruit my children and grandchildren, I get angry all over again.
I haven't even started writing about how the Mormons harassed us, when we first left. We left quietly, because I had become afraid of Mormons, but the men came beating on my door late at night, in groups of two and three. Well, I won't get started, except to say that they made our life Hell. They desperately needed an organist, then they demanded that give organ lessons, for free. They also wanted my children. Resigning, officially, put a stop to 90% of the harassment. Instructions on how to resign are at the top of this board.
Now we deal with shunning, but my children have great life-long non-Mormon friends, and I have old friends from childhood, and work colleagues, and we have ex-Mormon relatives, and we have each other.
Stay strong! For us, our worst day after quitting the Mormon cult is better than our best day inside the Mormon cult.