Date: March 28, 2019 05:06PM
I wonder if I was just too weird, or too untouchable as a convert divorced child-free lady, to bother with. Because except for a couple texts and one visit from the missionaries (I didn't answer the door) nobody came after me!
I didn't resign, I just said I was working out of state. And, it rather makes me giggle that somehow every once in a while, somebody might try to find me. I'm not on social media under my own name, I screen my phone calls, and don't answer the door unless I am expecting someone. So I doubt they will ever be able to 'get' me whether I am resigned or just 'gone.'
I feel relief that I know I will never go again, and that I'm not still 'trying' to be a member.
Date: March 29, 2019 10:26AM
Rubicon was one of the main posters on RFM who was the most informative. I resigned without knowing all of the Truth. I stopped believing in JS, when I read the BOM and the POGP, and also the journals of some of my Mormon ancestors—but stayed a practicing Mormon, because of friends and family, and because “Mormonism is the best way to raise children.” When I discovered
That the Mormon leaders were abusing my children, I knew in an instant that leaving the Mormon church was the right thing to do, for me and my children! (I was divorced, and we had no contact with my ex, who was completely inactive (“less active”)
I have never doubted my decision.
When I quit my callings, and we stopped attending, the Mormons harassed us, and maligned us, and told lies about us. I found RFM and the Truth! I didn’t even know we could resign. It took me 9 months, before I got that letter saying we were “removed from the rolls”. The nasty cult doesn’t give us the status of being “resigned”. It only informs us that they have removed us from the rolls, and has taken away all our ordinances. Oh well, we couldn’t just quit,either, but only be “less active” and subject to continual stalking and harassment for the rest of our lives.
I had to call Dodge, and threaten to sue the church, and give him the name of my attorney. Like with the other poster, I got my letter 3 cays later.
In those 9 month of waiting, I learned many truths from Rubicon and others on RFM. I also learned that the moment our letter of resignation is received, we are legally OUT! I hated the cult so much, that I HAD to have that final letter!
I felt free from a lifetime burden.
I felt that I had gained more wisdom
I felt like I belonged in the world
I felt good about being a single working mother, instead of being ashamed. Our life took a dramatic swing upwards.
No more Mormon depression.
Bonus—90% of the Mormon harassment stopped. Now we’re just shunned, but we don’t care anymore.
Date: March 31, 2019 01:11PM
It took me a while to resign too, but when I did, I was completely ready. I didn't do it until I was ready for it.
The Bishop, who doesn't even know me, kept sitting on the paperwork. I don't know the Stake President either.
It took me 5 months to resign, due to the stalling of the Bishop and Stake President. So by that point, I was just angry and wanting to get it over with.
I had to become a nag, which is not characteristic of me at all. I'm actually quite a timid person. When I got the paperwork, it was more like, "Hallelujah! Finally."