Posted by:
exminion
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Date: March 30, 2019 02:16AM
Did you wear a dress? Did you wear "heels and hose"? What underwear did you wear?
I decided to not go to a Mormon funeral, last month. It was during the work week, and I was going to take a long lunch hour and go, but it was very cold and snowy, and I was wearing pants at work. I don't like to sit next to men at work, and be worried about my skirt riding up over my knees, and all that. I should have brought a long black skirt, and put it on over my pants, but I didn't. It would have taken me over an hour to drive home to change my clothes. When I thought about it--if I was not welcome at that funeral, as a female pants-wearer, I certainly was not welcome there as an "apostate!" I didn't go, but wrote a nice condolence note in the messages section of the funeral home's website.
My cousin is a very busy, important man, who left the cult when he was at BYU. He goes to Mormon funerals, but gets up and leaves when the final Mormon speaker stands up to give the POS (Plan Of Salvation) spiel. Really, that's fine. People figure that maybe he as to hurry to a work appointment or meeting. The final speaker is usually someone from the stake, who never knew the deceased, anyway. If I were a man, that's what I would do, while wearing pants, of course.
I've been in a Mormon church building once, since we resigned. It was not in the chapel, but in the room with the font, for my grandchild's baptism. The ritualism, the whispers, the canned prayers, the smells, the feeling about the place triggered a PTSD flashback. Not worth it. It's hypocritical to appear like I support that cult, or that I would ever go back there.