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Afraid of Mormons
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Date: June 01, 2019 02:09AM
Everyone is different. After my second divorce, I wanted nothing to do with sex. Both of my ex-husbands were abusive. One beat me, from the beginning. One cheated on me. The one who cheated was a Narcissist. He enjoyed inflicting pain on me during sex, and that was horrible enough for me to remain celibate for the rest of my life.
I was thrust into a leadership calling, in the LDS Singles over 40--yet another reason to be celibate! The Mormon men were very scary! There were Known polygamists, rapists, and pedophiles at the dances, and it wasn't easy to keep them out. In addition, the married priesthood leaders (who, of course, were the bosses of the singles and females) allowed the Utah State Prison to bus in prisoners, who were able to get special-privileges "passes."
Oh, Lord! How many times did I say, "I'm SO GLAD I didn't go out with THAT GUY!"
The favorite man at the dances, who said he was a doctor, was found murdered in a ditch. His wife killed him. The polygamists would go to the dances, looking for new wives.
I did reconnect with a few old boyfriends, but they were Mormons, and by then I had realized that I did not agree with the Mormon attitude towards women. I was out there making a living to support my children, and I wanted RESPECT.
To me, having sex would have meant giving up my self-respect. I also wanted to be someone my children would look up to. I did not want to bring some unknown man into our life. My family was too precious to share.
That said--I already knew how very bad and how very good sex could be. If I had had only bad sex, I would have been very CURIOUS about what everyone was raving about! Curiosity alone, would have made me give it a go.
Please don't tell your bishop!!! I think everyone agrees on this!
Don't tell your family, either! From my experiences in the LDS Singles, and with various bishops, and with Mormon families, "Never kiss and tell" is the best advice! Don't complicate things, and don't make too much out of this.
I would advise you to NOT have sex. Fool around, and have fun, but don't expose yourself to diseases, pregnancy scares, and emotional upheaval. Just don't do it!
This has nothing to do with religion or morals or guilt. It's just common sense and self-preservation. Get a hobby. Exercise, feed, massage, and work on your fabulous body. Keep it for yourself.
One more question:
How was it! Did it satisfy your curiousity?
Most of all, did it convince you that your awful marriage and divorce was NOT YOUR FAULT? I hope so! (((hugs to you)))