Posted by:
exminion
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Date: May 30, 2019 06:17AM
I loved resigning! I carefully wrote our "letter of resignation", and edited it down to a cogent 2 pages, and enjoyed telling EXACTLY WHY my children and I left the cult. Most of all, I enjoyed TELLING THEM that all our church ordinances, and especially the temple rituals were NULL AND VOID--including my sealing to a wife-beating thug, and any connection with my children and that fake sealing. I told the Mormons that God loves us. It felt good to take charge.
Yes, I get confirmation all the time, that the kids and I did the right thing.
As for the fake friends--the shunning is very unpleasant. The Mormon neighbors never were my friends in the first place, though. They never knew me on any deep level. They just used me for my music and teaching, and used my children to populate the waning Primary, and as scapegoats for their sick need to dominate and abuse children.
The Mormon problem really hit me when I had a 2 week "staycation", when all of my children were to be out of town together, and I would be left behind to work, and take care of the pets, and water the yards, etc. I had two absolutely free weekends, and I needed a break. The caveat was that I could not leave SLC. I decided to take a break from Mormons.
I didn't go anywhere where I would run into someone who would shun me. No shopping at the neighborhood stores. I would walk the dogs only up in the mountains. I wouldn't drive any distance on roads with rude drivers. On Sundays, I wouldn't drive past the church building. No contact with Mormon family members. No KSL or Deseret News (I always avoided those, anyway.) No local news or politics. I even blocked all phone calls from Mormons--but I never told anyone I did that. No e-mails, no texts, no messages, for two weekends. It was so great, and I was so relaxed and refreshed, that I decided to do that every weekend!
For me, that's the happiest way to live in SLC, and the next best thing to moving away. I spend weekends with my children and grandchildren, my not-Mormon friends, and a few life-long Mormon friends from childhood and college. We escape up into the mountains and ski areas, whenever possible. I still am always reachable to my work colleagues, because I like them, and none of them are Mormons. I don't feel I need a break from work, as much as I need a break from crowds of nasty, rude Mormons, after work. I don't go where they go, when I know they'll be there. I have different interests and hobbies, now. This is how I do Christmas, too. I turn down invitations, if a lot of snobby Mormons will be at the party. I simply don't give Mormons the opportunity to snub me, or misjudge me, or try to reconvert me, or make me feel bad, or tell me to read the BOM, etc. I got very tired of being upset all the time.
I don't open e-mails from Mormons. I don't go on Fakebook at all. My life is kept private from people who are not my friends.
The trouble is that I'm having such a fun, peaceful life, that I don't make enough of an effort to make new friends. I don't need to replace the cult in any way, or join any groups. You don't need to belong to an organized group to do charity work or to help others. I do reciprocate with old friends, take my turn hosting parties, etc., but compared to the social mania of the cult, I feel like an introvert. But that is OK!