My daughter has long moved on with her life and the rest of her life is the best of her life !! I want to make sure the asshat Stake President is fully aware the allegations my daughter made were the truth and he should of never put his bias opinions in a divorce . He had such a closed mine he was unable to open it to see the truth if it would of hit him in the head with a shovel.
By the way the fine ex son in law elder signed away his paternal rights to keep his fat lazy ass out of jail for non payment of child support.
I am vindicating my daughter! Guess the Mor ron god he prayed to was asleep at the wheel during his prayers.
The mug shots and arrest summaries involve other women he has abused since my daughter divorced him . Including one in today’s local news.
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Most stake presidents and bishops will hew to the line established in SLC, which is that they should not get involved in any marital dispute. If you want to protect your daughter, the best way forward is to get a restraining order and then serve that to the SP--with witnesses--and perhaps also to send a copy to the COB in SLC. Then they will have a legal reason to keep your son-in-law away.
My fear is that informing the local authorities will have no effect unless there is a legal threat involved.
BTW to LW: BettyDee has no standing to seek a restraining order. Her daughter can.
If the ex SIL is in stirr, then Dear Daughter needs to make sure that the Corrections Department, or whoever has him, notifies her of parole hearings, his release date, and so on. It's at that point that she should seek a restraining (or protection) order. Victim rights and procedures vary widely.
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Yes, caffiend, I am aware of that. I was speaking (too) loosely, trying to convey that if there is a DVRO, giving a copy to the church would likely have an impact. Otherwise, the SP would probably just put it in a file and forget about it. If I were the daughter, I'd do exactly what you suggest.
I'm not sure, but it sounds from what bettydee wrote that the abuser is not in jail and that there is not a protective order in place, so it may be too late to obtain one. If the man has gone on to abuse other women, betty's daughter may nonetheless be safe--which is what matters most.
I agree that anything you do will have no effect on the Mormon cult or its leaders. They take the man's side, always.
Mormon leaders abused my children, and all I could do was get my children out of the cult, and protect them. The bishop's son who molested my daughter in front of witnesses at a church campout, went on a mission, got married, became Elder's Quorum President. He had 3 daughters, and molested all three of them! I warned people about this creep, but no one listened. There was nothing more I could have done to protect his next victims.
The molester's father, the bishop who threatened all the witnesses and my daughter to keep the molestation a secret, was promoted to mission president, temple president, and then the "Seventies" which was a general authority position. He overtly tried to have sex with some women in the singles group, and when they reported this behavior to the Mormon leaders, no one believed them. I knew they were telling the truth, because he had also come on to me, but less aggressively.
The men who broke into our house, pulled my sons out of bed, and kicked and shoved them, and forced them into their car and to church, one became stake president, and another became our bishop, but by then, we were long gone.
A neighbor told me to Google one of the thugs who assaulted my sons, and he had a record of manslaughter, but his company's defense lawyers got him a reduced sentence. There had been an article in the Tribune about the incident. Yet, our ward always had him in leadership positions. He was scary! I walked into my living room, and saw this man shoving my son, and twisting his arms, and my son was crying. I yelled at him to leave my son alone, but he picked up my son, and tried to carry him out of my home, right in front of me. (I had no husband to protect us.) I threatened to call the police, and he dropped my son and ran out of the house. I didn't know at the time, that he had a record. He still attends the ward, and demands respect from his 12 messed-up children.
The Mormon cult is filled with evil, corrupt, sick people. So are other churches (read "Children of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck), but in Mormonism, wife-beating, rape, molestation, and are excused, condoned, and even enabled. The Mormon church is anti-women's rights. I mean, after all, it's a POLYGAMOUS cult. All you can do is officially resign, and take your kids out with you.
You need to concentrate ALL your focus on keeping your daughter and her child safe! They are all who matter. I would be afraid that a psychopath like that would get angry and go after those innocent victims. Please get restraining orders, if you can!
Make your story public. Mormons get away with too many crimes. They are afraid of bad publicity and of being sued.
Leading up to the time that I resigned from the church (twenty-five years ago) the actions of church members and church leaders toward me was terrible. It wasn't until I got serious about using the courts of law to enforce my rights, that I started recovering. Call the police at the first sign that your rights are being violated by force or through intimidation. Don't be afraid to involve the church leaders as defendants or to oficially get the church involved in what you report to the police. See what these so-called 'authorities' have to say while they're in handcuffs, standing in front of a judge. Let the media report some of the horror stories of the kind found here on RFM. Put this brother or sister crap in the trash and go right to playing hardball.