Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: August 19, 2019 03:40PM
Thanks, Cl2!
Wow, this thread has given me a lot to think about.
Being a mother perhaps gives me a different perspective. I don't like liver, and I live around that, but seeing people force-feed my children liver, would make me rebel. Especially, if people lied and told my children it was NOT liver, and tried to disguse it as waffles, and told my children they were crazy if they thought the waffles tasted like liver, or bad if they refused to partake.
Perhaps a better analogy would be a food with a cumulative poisonous effect, like mercury-laden fish, which the Mormons might put into its cookies and cupcakes, a little at a time, so the children could not detect that they were eating it.
IMO, Mormonism is bad, in any form, and in any dose. Cutting it back to two hours on Sunday is not going to make it less bad.
I totally get what Lot's Wife says about "a separate peace." What a great way of putting it! How can I be completely at peace with being free of the cult, when one of my children and my baptized will be harmed by it? If they are obedient, if they aren't gay, if all goes perfectly on their missions and with their educations--they will still be abused, mentally and physically! My children were great kids, and they were abused. All Primary children are lied to. All are threatened with bad things that will happen to them if they aren't obedient. My kids had nightmares about what they were taught in Primary. Was there even one child in those classes that was unafraid? Who was made happier by going to church? Or, was it a matter of who could appear to be happier? Children are taught to be phony. The "self" is bad. Sorry to rant, but I could go on and on.
My TBM daughter is "happily married" in the temple to an accomplished TBM, but she tells me she knows that if she ever left the church, he would divorce her in a heartbeat, and take the children from her.
One grandchild is a female, and she will most likely be pushed into a marriage when she's too young and not ready, or (like I was) doesn't know the young man well enough. This is happening to a friend's TBM granddaughter, right now, at BYU, and after 3 months of meeting him, he seems like a loser, and the beautiful little freshman scholarship girl could do a lot better. The loser wants her to give up her 4-year, full-ride scholarship and marry him, and put him through his remaining years at community college. Once married, a mormon female is admonished to have a baby immediately, and not wait.
My TBM grandson, no matter what he does for a living, will have 10% less income than he earns. If he decides to go to college and beyond, he will be 2 years behind, because of a mission. How can this be good?
If everything is dandy, it's only temporary. I can't throw my grandchildren under the bus, even if all I can do is show them the ways out, and keep the doors open for them. I must be very careful, in fear of losing them to the cult. I have several ex-Mormons who's Mormon children will not let them be with the Mormon grandchildren. One friend recently re-joined the cult and is paying tithing, so she can try to rescue her relationship with her TBM granddaughter. I've already lost a TBM niece, who committed suicide at BYU, and a TBM nephew, who was gay, and killed himself, leaving a family behind. Two horrible losses! It's not worth the gamble, to play with the Mormon cult.
It's a whole lot easier, though, to let the mean Mormons who are abusing and shunning us "stew in their own juice"--because I don't care about them. But I can't give up on the ones I love.