Posted by:
BAIIPLUS
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Date: September 01, 2019 06:51AM
So all through my marriage. I have let my husband have the final say in most everything. This was especially true when it came to money.
He started a business with another man. He wrote code for software for nearly a year and churned out a decent product. The partner was supposed to then sell the software. I recommended he write down the hours he worked on the software. I recommended that he keep a record of all his expenses. he didn't because he trusted this guy.
He completes the software and the partner fails to sell it. Not only that, he then starts claiming that my husband had promised to sell it and had now backed out of the deal.
Guess what no paperwork. no contract, no record of hours worked. When this all went to trial it was a case of a guy with a lawyer against a guy without a lawyer. My husband lost because he had no proof of his work or their agreement. This cost 40K.
Way back in the day Bitcoin was just becoming a thing. I got a hot tip. I stated that we should do bitcoin. I had looked into how to get a quick set up going and start mining. I wanted to move quickly. He wanted a "Good" setup. He tried to get funding so that he could buy a bunch of computers. I just backed out of it. he had decided to make all the decisions and knew people that could fund him. The guy helping him get funding set up a quick set up on some old computers. My husband did not. I did not because I figured the correct way to do things was to let the man handle it as the breadwinner.
Fast forward to a year later. Bit coin at the time was worth a ridiculous amount. I won't date it, but it would've paid for our house several times over. I was kicking myself for releasing control on that one.
There were other instances. Whenever I pushed at all in business for I was told to back out. I have no say and its his job as head of the house to deal with the money/business.
But, he sucks at it. He is really bad as a businessman and I'd say a little dishonest.
If only I could go back in time and asserted myself instead of trying to play my role as "helpmate".
what a bunch of bull.