Almost anyone out there would make a better date/partner/spouse than most of the Mormons I have know. You will have good luck, without the help of any dating website. Most normal, people who have a lot to offer don't need a dating service, unless you live in a remote area.
Start with people you already know. Tell everyone that you are open to be set-up on a date. Be friendly to people whom you would not date--old, too young, married, etc--those are people who have single relatives and friends, and out-of-town visitors, etc. Most of the people I dated, when I was a 38-45-year-old single, resulted from friends, with whom I had something in common. It worked well to not be looking, and not be desperate. I was just enjoying my life and my friends, and things snowballed from there.
Unfortunately, the ones who were searching aggressively, and using websites, were usually desperate for a reason, or were unacceptable to others in their neighborhood or peer groups.
YOU choose! Don't wait to see who chooses you. That's the opposite advice from my TBM mother's, who advised me to wait patiently and see who comes along. I ended up being stalked by men who were looking for money, a home, and a free ride, an one wife abuser.
If you're an older single, have everyone you date investigated--just as if you were hiring that person! I'm serious!
Nothing wrong with online dating. Just be smart about it.
Met my amazing hubby on E-Harmony 12 years ago, even though we both lived in good sized cities. No regrets at all! I like to think we were both normal people with a lot to offer, just tired of traditional dating. Please don't dismiss people who are looking for love online.
Yes, there are some scary people online. But there are also scary people anywhere else you might meet someone. A little common sense can go a long way.
It would be nice to have ex mormon friends in real life. I don’t know any. As for dating one? I think my own weird issues are enough for one couple :-) I have met people I’ve dated via meet-up and at work. One was via a dating site. I think if you live your life and go out a lot you will find the right person eventually. Well that’s my theory and I’m working on it. The downside to meet-up and the workplace is if you break up it’s awkward. Still it’s better meeting people in real life than online. The online thing is a back up, or extra thing for me.