Date: October 29, 2019 03:58PM
There is a very exmo vibe to this question, in my pants...I mean, in my mind.
Perhaps it would have been more exmo-ish to have asked the proper exmo question, "how do I deal with the fact that I want to have sex without it being an eternal commitment?"
Because modern mormonism, and its mormons, are supposed to look forward to, if they do it right, one sexual partner in this lifetime, for the man, and one (and ONE only) for all eternity for the female.
And our society, and those paying for advertisements in order to make even more money, say differently, preach differently.
After splitting from my temple bride, and still feeling the ravages of mormon morality, I never thought about sex on the first date. So when, at the insistence of the date, sex was in the offing, I had to make a much bigger deal of it than it was; I had to literally (in my mind) plan on at least getting engaged. Otherwise, it was just sex for sex's sake, and who can live like that?! Just doing things that feel good?!? How does that work?
I'm not saying I've ever been raped, but there have been dates that ended with me laying there, thinking of England, and calculating batting averages.
There are human experiences that are not covered in the bible, and the word "Sex" is one of those experiences. In my now more mature immature mind, I have eschewed the word 'unnatural'.
I remember the first time I saw a female contortionist on the Ed Sullivan Show. I bet most men's minds went to the same place my mind went.
Ladies, honest question: where did your minds go as you were watching her?
How can something be 'unnatural' if a human body can do it? Wouldn't that be the very definition of 'natural'?
Just because you can't run a sub-4-minute mile doesn't make it 'unnatural' that other humans can?
Now, if by 'unnatural' you mean "it makes ghawd cry!!", what you're saying makes some sense. There will be others equally convinced, but the porn stars are still going to make money doing them!
Finally, Joseph Waumbaugh, the LAPD detective who turned into a very successful author, used to work an eight-hour day shift. But he'd get up at 4:00 a.m. and write for a couple of hours. He did this EVERY DAY! The pay-off was that he published novels and made a lot of money. How many of us have that kind off 'unnatural' discipline?
Being an exmo is the best job in the world!