Mother Who Knows
Date: November 12, 2019 05:01AM
I'm not really a joiner. I like freedom and flexibility. My family and career take up a lot of scheduled time, and there's little left for unnecessary nonsense. I need a lot of time for solitude, and peace-and-quiet time with my children and grandchildren.
Even when I was a Mormon, I worked on house maintenance and did yard work for my hobbies, instead of making useless crafts in RS. It might have been fun--don't misunderstand--but I enjoyed working around the house too much.
Even when we were Mormons, the kids and I would go with our friends to the Christmas Eve candlelight service at the Methodist church. The schools were bad for a while, where we lived, so the kids went to a private Lutheran school. It was fun to volunteer there, in all capacities. I quit my Mormon callings, in order to help out with the school's music, which was a lot of fun, and which involved me with my kids. I made better friends in both the Lutheran and Methodist churches. In our new neighborhood Mormon ward here in SLC, the Scout and Priesthood leaders physically abused my boys, so we left the Mormon church, and they joined a neighborhood Scout troop sponsored by a coalition of the Methodist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, and a non-denominational church. They got their Eagle awards. One son was married in the little neighborhood non-denominational church. One was married in a barn. One was married at a country club. My daughter was married in the temple. She says she is an Atheist, but forces herself and her children to go to the Mormon church, because she knows her husband would divorce her if she quit.
Is there some sort of rule that a person can't go to several different churches, depending on our neighborhoods and situations? Other church groups allow us to go to whatever building we want, depending on the times of the services, depending on where our friends and family go--and we are allowed to sit with our friends. Mormonism is an inflexible cult, that never could fit into our need for variety and growth. We're a lot happier staying away from cults