Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: January 20, 2020 04:29PM
Ministering, visiting-ministering-sisters, menstruating, meddling,
I know three Mormon widows in the same ward, who were complaining to me that the VT's and HT's had been their only social and personal contact they ever had with any ward members. They aren't able to attend all the meetings, they aren't a "couple" anymore, they aren't "fun" and active, like they used to be. They are very sad about this change.
I said, "It seems like you have been "ministering" to each other, all along, the three of you, as friends. Real friendships like yours are permanent, and don't change on re-assignments. If any of you needs help, you all know who to call."
Mormons need instructions on "how to be a friend," instead of having to check boxes and make reports and give useless Ensign messages. My VT's used to drop in, usually unannounced, and they both would do all the talking--talk my head off with gossip about people I didn't know, read the silly Ensign VT message, talk about something that happened in their lives in relation to the VT message, beat their testimonies at me, etc. Sometimes one would bring a toddler or a child that was sick and missing school. They did not even ask how my children and I were doing--was that what they were supposed to do? Maybe they saw I was dressed and standing up and talking and the house was neat.
I got out of doing VT, because I worked during the day, and didn't want to leave my kids alone at night.
Is it true that the VT's are instructed to spy on people? The HT's used to go into my kitchen, to use my phone, before the days of cell phones, and they would look around. A few times they asked to use the bathroom, which I though was weird, since they lived only a few houses away. One time, I did get suspicious, and when one of the men went into the bathroom, I excused myself, and went into a room with an adjacent wall, and I heard the HT opening and closing drawers and the medicine cabinet. What was he looking for? I was a decent citizen, and active with my church callings, and my children were good kids. What was that guy thinking he would find?
Is that why they would always drop in unannounced? I think that's why!
They wanted to ambush the single divorced working woman, and catch her drinking booze in her bathrobe, to find a coffee pot in the kitchen, to find pornography spread out on the kitchen table, to find my little kids smoking pot, drugs in the medicine cabinet, birth control in the bathroom drawers? We never did any of those things, by the way, except for one. I drank my coffee at the office.
I'm glad they stopped these mandatory home-invasions.