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Date: November 02, 2020 06:54AM
I don't come here often in the past 8 years. But I did come and post three years ago when I was banned from the funeral of the only sibling that I was close to. At that time I divorced my family, though I never told them. Just blocked them on fb and never called.
A couple of months ago my parents died, and my son died, all in the same week.
A niece told me on fb messenger that my parents died. But no siblings emailed or anything. No notification about a funeral etc. It was expected as I have had no contact for three years. But they did all know my email. And as I never told them that I divorced them, it was all on their own that they decided not to tell me anything.
It was then that I knew I was out, even if I wasn't the one who wanted to be out.
Through my wife's fb I looked at their pages to see what was happening with the funeral etc. I found that my mom, who had alzheimer's died first, and my dad died later the same day. It was made out to be a romantic ride off into the sunset quirk of fate for two people who never wanted to be apart etc.
My son's wife told me on fb messenger that he died in his sleep of an unknown heart problem. I live in another country, but I watched his funeral on fb live. I felt really bad for her and the kids.
Then the surprises started.
My work offers a paid benefit for the deaths of close family members, but I needed the death certificates. So I ordered them online. My parents came first. I read the cause of death, and was shocked. My mom was starved and dehydrated to death. It said that she last had food or water five days earlier. I know nothing about the particulars of how such a thing came about. Was she in a coma? Was she just lying there in a fog of confusion, but not in a coma? But it surely wasn't the ride off into the sunset with my father that it was made out to be.
Then I got my son's death certificate. I found that he died of a drug overdose on fentanyl! I never even knew that he used drugs. He had a great job, three kids, and seemed fine as can be. But I was shocked that his wife lied to me about how he died!
Mormons and lying to make stories more uplifting. All of my family, and daughter-in-law consider themselves to be really good mormons. But telling the truth isn't a strong point. If my work didn't offer a death benefit, I would never know how they died.
Don't let the truth get in the way of a good story. A mormon tradition.